The fact that your partner’s actions or words have caused you harm does not mean they intentionally wanted to hurt you. It is also not true that your actions or words never hurt your partner, no matter how loyal and good you are to them.
It’s sad when people say their partner intentionally hurt them or have the habit of hurting them. If that is true, then why would you choose someone who doesn’t love you to be your partner? Why will you choose a bad person to be with? How did you fall in love with such a person?
The truth of the matter is that many people are struggling with destructive habits they want to change. Such people need partners who will give them the right kind of support to change their behaviour.
Anyone who has experienced love will understand that loving someone makes you happy. It is the best feeling to see someone happy because you did something that makes them happy. The opposite is also true; you feel worse when your actions cause someone pain, especially someone you really love and care about.
Instead of concluding that they are just in your life to hurt you, let’s learn to be kind in the moment of hurt, not forgetting that the person whose action hurt you is an important part of your life. They might be battling with something that caused them to act indifferently towards you.
The sad irony is that the very person was once a reason for your smiles, the cause of your happiness. That was the reason you believed in love. Talk to them about how much they mean to you and how much their actions hurt you and find out how you can support them to work on themselves so you don’t experience that same ill behaviour.
Learn to talk to them about your feelings instead of talking about them to others. If others understand you and your partner does not understand you, you will always see your partner as the problem. But when your partner understands you, they will see their ill actions as the problem, and they will work to overcome that with your support.
In conclusion, “You do yourself a favour when you are kind. If you are cruel, you only hurt yourself,” says Proverbs 11:17 (GNT).
