1) Marriage must start from friendship. You don’t seem to like him/her then don’t marry him/her! How much friendship you can make or keep with your spouse will show how long the marriage relationship will last. When friendship end in a relationship or marriage, marriage or relationship will end eventually.
Someone you don’t get along with can’t be your friend. Your spouse must be your friend. Set your mind back to a close friend of you at high school, same sex. That you so much get along well with. Most of this friends you still keep in touch, talk and play together even online.
Good! Exactly what you do together is what you are expected to do with your spouses. Those gisting must continue, those funny jokes you share, those great moments you share, those phone photographs you pose and take like teens must be there. I use to look at some ladies, always looking too serious, morose looking always like they lost someone, they don’t have friehds they laugh with. And you want to marry? You better change!
See Isaac & Rebecca playing!
And it came to pass, when he had been there a long time, that Abimelech king of the Philistines looked out at a window, and saw, and, behold, Isaac was sporting with Rebekah his wife.
Genesis:26:8
Marriage involve laughing moments. Dancing without sounds together. If you want to be sad looking every time please don’t go and marry. Don’t increase the divorce mass we have. When a man or a woman start to loose the friendship of the spouse, separation is setting in already.
Befriend your spouse all over again like you did from the beginning if friendship is missing in your marriage. If your spouse ask you “Mary! Why this sudden change, tell him you found a new love in him, you want to befriend him again” continue until you get him along!
2) Marriage is Relationship:
Yes! Are you surprised? So many people think relationship takes place before marriage. But No! Relationship is a general term for all kinds of social association which you have with people.
It could be father to daughter relationship( parental relationship). It could even be boss to an employee. Sibling to sibling, relative to relative(family relationship) It could be even be God to human(spiritual relationship) etc.
Marriage is not left out. It’s a form of relationship. What should be involved in relationship. Simple put “connecting together” when you stop relating, the marriage is about to die!
There is a kind of connection or link that must be in your marriage, you know that kind? You are at church and you were in the choir stand, hubby is in the ushering dept, you are almost tempted to bring out your phone and tell him to see that kind of suit you told him to buy and use, lols. You get that? That connection must not disappear in your marriage.
Even when you are not together be connected, that is relationship. Some people will travel even to another city, no single call till you are back. And then when she calls, “why are you disturbing me”?
Sweethearts nothing is more important than your spouse. Let her hear your voice!
Apart from our matrimonial bedroom, I have a room where I use personally; work, pray and study alone etc. Sometimes message will just come in, alas its hubby.
He can’t just wait sometimes to show me something, I do that too. You know when you don’t have network how you feel? The connection in your marriage must not break! If the network you use in your marriage is not good, please change it. You know how you switched to Airtel when Glo was disturbing in your area. No be so?
Some people can keep malice more than the devil himself. Do you know what the bible advice you about malice even if you like keeping one.
It says: “keep malice like children!” You know that kind kids use to do, and in the next minutes they are playing with sand together again.
That is why the bible say that to make heaven, you must be like children. They don’t keep record of evil.
Brethren, be not children in understanding: but in malice be ye children, but in understanding be men. 1 Cor 14:20
