God doesn’t stop the rain when we refuse to honour Him. God doesn’t stop the sunshine when we hurt him with our actions. God doesn’t stop caring about us when we stop caring about Him. God doesn’t stop protecting us when we ignore him.
God doesn’t refuse to forgive us when we sin against Him and decide to come back to Him. God doesn’t pay us back for the wrong we did Him. This is because He loves us. He never stops loving us even when we hate, hurt or abandon Him.
God treats us like this because He loves us. He doesn’t show us love based on how we treat Him. Anyone who knows God and has a relationship with Him should have this kind of love, for the bible says “Anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love” – 1 John 4:8 (MEV).
Truth be told, Christian marriages are breaking faster than any other people. We who say we know God but don’t have His kind of love, the question is, who are we? Are we lairs, pretenders or hypocrites?
If truly we have a good relationship with God and it’s not just showmanship, we will have His kind of love; and with His kind of love, we won’t give up on our spouses when they give up on us.
We will continue to provide and care for them when they insult, hurt us with their actions, ignore us or abandon us. We will find it easy to forgive them when they come back to us, and won’t use that against them in the future.
We will seek for ways to protect them, pray for them, stand with them and know they are lost and need someone to intercede on their behalf to bring them back to the right path.
But when we choose to ignore them and treat them the way they treated us, we have given up on God. We have left the camp of God and we are on our own way for we no longer have love. We are lost and not different from our wrong partners. We are all equally sick.
Love is a debt you owe your spouse when you agree to marry them. Nobody likes debts, there is no joy in paying a debt; you pay debts in pains and discomfort. As human as we are, when our spouses hurt us, we should not hurt them back or leave them. We owe them love. It is time to pay back the love we owe them, and that is exactly what they lack.
Just as sickness causes one to lose appetite for what they love, is the same way our spouses become when they are sick in the marriage, they lose interest in the same person they couldn’t do without.
You don’t leave a sick person, you give them medication. Some sickness requires bitter medication and one of such sicknesses is the one your spouse is going through. The bitter medication is loving them even when they are unlovable. This is how you help them heal, not when you leave, abandon them or give them the same treatment.
In conclusion “Pay all your debts except the debt of love for others—never finish paying that! For if you love them, you will be obeying all of God’s laws, fulfilling all his requirements” – Romans 13:8 (TLB).
