Have you wondered why your partner is overly insecure about your behaviour, conversation, or interactions with someone you call a friend? Or someone you see as a friend or colleague and nothing more, but your comments suggest there is a romantic relationship between you two? There are chances you might be sending a wrong signal.
Your partner might not be over reacting, he or she is sensing danger ahead because of your behaviour towards your friend. The reason why you are not noticing what your partner is accusing you of is because you don’t have the intention of having a romantic relationship with this friend.
Entertaining your friend at odd times at the expense of your relationship or sacrificing the time you spend with your partner for your friend could send a wrong message to your partner. Sharing the places or things you do with your partner with your friend can send the wrong message. Giving gifts and the attention you give your partner to your friend or doing for your friend what you do for your partner could also send a wrong message. Your action can greatly hurt and upset your partner.
Calling your friend ‘sweetheart, dear, beautiful, etc” or pet names, sharing deeper emotions with your friend makes your friend feel special and makes them develop a special connection with you. In other words, you might be leading your friend on unknowingly and also making your partner insecure.
We all need friends but know what you can do with friends and what you do with a lover. Set boundaries and stick to your boundaries. Stop sending signals that do not show what you want.
Don’t take your partner’s insecurity for granted. Pay attention to why your partner is not happy about your relationship with your friends and do the needful. Listen to understand how your partner feels.
In conclusion, “In whatever you do, don’t let selfishness or pride be your guide. Be humble, and honour others more than yourselves.” – Philippians 2:3 (ERV).
