Showing affection for a man is not natural. He is a man, not a woman. You can’t expect him to move from being masculine to being amazingly romantic on the wedding day. These things take time, especially if he wasn’t a play boy when you met him.
Don’t expect her to be a sex super star immediately after a wedding, especially if she lacked previous experience or wasn’t a prostitute! A brand new bride can’t be an expert at 62 sex styles on her wedding night and beyond unless she reads and attends classes!
Romance, love, affection, submission, financial management, understanding, and intimacy take time to build in marriage. It doesn’t jump on anybody!
Do not build unrealistic expectations in marriage. A successful marriage requires a great deal of patience and hard work. The Bible says, “Love is patient and kind.” Patiently, lovingly, and maturely teach your husband how to be romantic. Bear with him when he fails.
Teach him how you want to be addressed, treated, responded to, etc. If you want him to hug you a lot in public, tell him, if you don’t like the way he shouts at you, nicely, maturely tell him. He is human. Stop treating him like a criminal or a wicked human being who is all out to hurt you. He will make mistakes while learning, and give room for that. Marriage is a place to allow your spouse to be themselves while trying to get better day by day.
Don’t abuse her if she’s not respectful enough. She’s not used to having a man tell her what to do with her life 24/7. Be patient, win her trust and respect, and with time, she will learn to submit to your leadership with reverence and honour.
If she is sexually “incompetent,” teach her. My husband taught me how to kiss him. Take her hand to where you like to be touched and teach her how you want her to perform. Buy good books on marriage and sex like ” Super Successful Marriage”, “The Full Blown affair”, ’10 Common Enemies of Marriage”, “Lies That Break Marriages”, ” Sex…Sweet Sex!”, “Passion
