Lady, between your legs is a world that many men want to enter, but you decide who goes in. There are consequences if a man enters there, good or bad. Men will want to go inside your private because of two reasons: Love or lust.
You need to discern well. Every lady must know the story of Tamar in the Bible, (2 Samuel 13:1-21). A beautiful woman who was desired by a selfish man called Amnon. Amnon is the classic example of a man who looks at a woman and only thinks about having sex with her. Amnon lusted after Tamar, and just like any selfish man, he used the word “love” in a loose and casual way.
Some men will tell you “I love you”, treat you well and buy you gifts just to get your private. Amnon went on saying how much he loves Tamar. And just like any other selfish man, Amnon plotted to be alone with Tamar, he pretended to be sick.
Tamar was too naive, she was just a good lady, she chose to help him like many naive ladies who slowly get close to men who are just luring them with sweet words, lies, traps. As she served him food, Amnon grabbed her wanting to have sex. A typical example of any man waiting for any opportunity to sex a woman.
She pleaded with him, said if he wants her, why doesn’t he marry her & he can have sex with her all his life? But just like any selfish man, he was only thinking about the now, he was not after marriage. His manhood was making the decision. She tried to fight him and sadly, he raped her.
Men are often physically powerful than the woman, but some men instead of using this strength to protect, they use it to fulfill their short term gratification. After sexing her, Amnon hated Tamar more than he loved her before, he avoided her.
This happens each time when a lady gives herself to the wrong man, because once he has sex with you, he will want nothing to do with you, the mission of his private has been accomplished, he was just after sex even if he lied to you that he loves you.
Lady, there are two types of men pursuing you; those whose only goal is to sex you, and those whose goal is to love you. A man who wants to love you will want to know you, his conversations will be more than sexual.
He will not brag how great he is in bed, he will let his care for you brag how great a man he can be to you. He will go out of his way to make you see a lifetime partner/ a husband in him. He will not rush you.
He will not be quick to tell you he loves you because his words carry weight. He will often talk about a future with you, whether directly or hint at it & you’ll see effort in bringing about that future. Handling you in a way to win your trust, not forcing you but inspiring you to choose him.
He will not be quick to have sex with you, he will be willing to wait and even after he has sex with you, he will love you even more because sex is just a part of the equation not the whole of it. You can tell a man’s view about love, by finding out his view about sex and how casually or highly he talks about sex.
That said, there are also women who are lustful. Tamar was naive but there are women who entertain, initiate and advance lust. These lustful women prey on naive men, or, they hook up with other lustful men and indulge in ungodly sexual ways. Lady, be responsible with your private. Do not use people for sex or allow yourself to be used for sex.
The greatest battles women face in their mind and spirit are brought about by sex. You may have sex with men who use condoms but sex is more complex than rubber. Some ladies struggle to sleep, are nursing emotional wounds, have drifted away from God, are full of confusion, are finding it a struggle to enjoy their husband and are in torment because of sex. Lady, guard your private; it is the door to your soul, spirit, heart and mind. Give it to the right man.
In marriage, guard your private from being unfaithful. Keep off the men who will pursue you knowing very well you are married. Do not let your private lead you to break your own home. In marriage, give your husband great sex.
When you’re ovulating and sexually hungry, exercise self control. Do not let your horniness lead you to trouble. If you are fighting emotional, mental, spiritual and physical battles; it is time for a clean up. Keep off men and environments that are out to use you. Avoid feeding lust. Get right with God.
Know that sex is not a must. Make room for the right one and soon you will enjoy sex with the right one. The right one will never come if you’re letting the wrong ones on and in your body.
As a woman, the consequences of sex weigh more on you. Keep your private a well guarded secret. A man must love you and commit to your love for life, before you entrust them with that.