1) Don’t order your spouse around like a servant. It shows pride
2) Don’t talk to your spouse as if your spouse is a congregant and you are the Bishop. It shows no romantic love. You are not on the pulpit
3) Don’t talk to your husband like he is a child, in a condescending way, “Let me tell immature you what to do”. It shows disrespect
4) Don’t talk to your wife as if she is stupid or beneath you. It shows dishonour
5) Don’t command your spouse publicly or on social media “You, come read this”. It embarrasses your spouse. Use courteous words “Darling, please check this out”, “Honey, we need to wind up and rush to our other meeting”
6) Don’t speak to your spouse with a bitter and rude tone. It pushes your spouse away and discourages conversations
7) Don’t shout at your spouse whether you two are alone or infront of the children or househelp. It causes trauma
8) Don’t talk to your spouse like a Police officer, interrogating instead of lovingly asking questions. It makes your spouse defensive and feel like running away
9) Don’t talk to your spouse filled with insults or vulgar language. It makes your spouse feel not special
10) Don’t talk to your spouse all guns blazing without giving room for your spouse to talk. It makes your spouse keep silent and let you talk by yourself
11) Don’t talk to your spouse like you do to your juniors at work. This is marriage, not employment
