( 𝐴𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑖𝑛 𝑎 𝑟𝑒𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠ℎ𝑖𝑝 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑤𝑜𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑟𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑖𝑓 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑔𝑢𝑦 𝑖𝑠 𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑖𝑜𝑢𝑠 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑜𝑟 ℎ𝑒’𝑠 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑐𝑎𝑡𝑐ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑐𝑟𝑢𝑖𝑠𝑒 𝑜𝑟 𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑜𝑓 𝑡ℎ𝑜𝑠𝑒 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑤𝑎𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑠,𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑢𝑠𝑒 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑑𝑢𝑚𝑝 𝑔𝑢𝑦𝑠, 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑛, 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑠 𝑎𝑟𝑡𝑖𝑐𝑙𝑒 𝑖𝑠 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢.)
Sometime ago, a lady approached me and asked me how she would know that a guy is really serious about marriage.
She told me that a guy is coming for her and she is worried if the guy is serious with her or one of those hit and run guys.
So, I told her some things or rather how she will know that a guy is really serious for marriage and not one of those sex predators or time wasters guys.
Maybe as a lady, you are in this kind of situation. You are in a relationship with a guy but you are not sure if this guy is really serious with you for marriage or has come to waste your time and drive away potential life partners. This article is for you.
In this article, what I intend to do is to show you how you can spot a guy that is serious about marriage and wants to walk down the aisle with you.
You really need to take this seriously because your time, prime, resources and potential life partners are at stake.
𝑂𝑛𝑒 𝑤𝑟𝑜𝑛𝑔 𝑔𝑢𝑦 𝑖𝑛 𝑎 𝑟𝑒𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠ℎ𝑖𝑝 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑤𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑤𝑎𝑠𝑡𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒, 𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑐𝑒𝑠 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑑𝑟𝑖𝑣𝑒 𝑎𝑤𝑎𝑦 𝑜𝑟 𝑏𝑙𝑜𝑐𝑘 𝑜𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟 𝑔𝑢𝑦𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑤𝑎𝑛𝑡 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑙𝑒 𝑑𝑜𝑤𝑛 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑦𝑜𝑢.
So, how will you know that guy that’s promising you heaven and earth is serious for marriage or he just wants to get between your pants?
- 𝑯𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒐𝒅𝒖𝒄𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒕𝒐 𝒊𝒎𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆
When a guy is serious with you, he doesn’t play hide and seek games. He will waste no time in introducing you to people that matter to him, his pastor, mentors, parents, colleagues, friends etc.
If you have been dating a guy for some time now, say 2 year or 3 years, and you don’t know who his parents are, you don’t know any of his siblings, colleagues or friends, and whenever you bring up the issue, he will change the topic, Aunty be careful, he may be one of those hit and run guys.
- 𝑯𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒂𝒍𝒔𝒐 𝒕𝒐 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒆𝒆𝒕 𝒊𝒎𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆
A guy that is serious about marriage will not only introduce you to important people in his life but will also like to meet important people in your own life so as to make things official and formal.
When you are in a relationship with a guy that’s doing hide and seek with you, whenever you bring up the issue of him coming to meet your parents, see your mentor or pastor, he will divert the conversation or run off, then you should know that he isn’t serious.
You shouldn’t waste your time with a guy that for 2 or 3 years has refused to meet your parents or important people in your life. Don’t do that.
- 𝑯𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒚 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒏 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒔𝒆𝒙
For many guys, their main aim for entering into a relationship is to have sex. They are not interested in getting married to you or having anything serious with you. They just want to chop and go.
Some of them will tell you, “If you love me, prove it.” That is, if you say you love them, you should have sex with them or give them free access to your website. No listen to them. Sex is not a prove of love.
Some of them once you tell them that no sex until after marriage, they will zoom off without looking back. Some of them will threaten you that if you don’t have sex with them, they will break up with you and all that.
But when you tell a guy that there will be no sex until after marriage and he still stays with you, he doesn’t disturb you for sex, he doesn’t threaten to leave if you don’t give him sex, and he doesn’t sleep around with other ladies, that may be a sign that he is serious about getting married to you.
𝐎𝐧𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚 𝐠𝐮𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐞𝐠𝐬. 𝐈𝐟 𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐞𝐬, 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮.
As a lady, one thing you need to know is that sex doesn’t keep a man. If a man doesn’t want to stay with you, give him all sex styles in the world, doggy style, horse style, scorpion style, cat style, scissors etc., he will not stay. A guy that wants you will stay with or without sex. Close your legs!
- 𝑯𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒊𝒏𝒄𝒍𝒖𝒅𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒊𝒏 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒎𝒂𝒋𝒐𝒓 𝒅𝒆𝒄𝒊𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒊𝒏 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆
When a guy is serious with you, he will include you in plans and major decisions in life, he will tell you about his plans and decisions he wants to make, sometimes he will seek for your ideas and suggestions and counseling
That means, he is seeing you in his future but when you are with a guy that hides things from you, he never tells you his next move or actions or his whereabouts, he just shows up and disappears anytime he wants, that’s a guy that is not sure of the future with you.
A man wants to marry a woman that will be useful to his future, so when a guy includes you in his plans and decisions, he wants you to be part of his future.
We don’t go about sharing our plans with anyone that cares to listen but with those we consider important to us. The point is, when a guy includes you in his plans and decisions, he plans the future with you, he is seeing the future with you.
- 𝑯𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒌 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒂𝒈𝒆
When a guy is serious with you for marriage, he will talk about marriage, he will make his intentions known to you, he will define the relationship. You will know where the relationship is heading to.
If you have been dating a guy for the past 2 to 3 years and he has never said anything about marriage, the relationship is not defined, you people are just there to see how it goes, that may be an unserious wasting your time and driving away other serious suitors.
- 𝑯𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒃𝒆 𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒄𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒉𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒚𝒐𝒖
In other words, he will be vulnerable to you. What does this mean? It means that he doesn’t hide things from you, he’s not faking anything to you, he’s real about who he is and what he is. He doesn’t pretend to be who or what he’s not in order to impress you.
A guy doesn’t open up his life to someone he doesn’t want to have anything serious with. When you are with a guy that lies and hides things from you, pretends to be what he’s not, that guy may not be serious with you.
- 𝑯𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂 𝒑𝒓𝒊𝒐𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒚
When you are a priority to someone…
✅ He give you attention
You give attention to something that is important to you, to something that interests you, to something that occupies your heart, and to something that attracts your mind.
✅ He will have time for you
We have time for everything, so anyone that doesn’t create time to be with you is not into you. Stop begging people to make time for you. If they consider you important, they will have time for you.
✅ He care about you
When someone is into you, they will make efforts to ensure that you are good, safe, okay, comfortable and all of that, they will call you to know how you’re doing, how your day is going and they will be concerned about your well-being.
✅ He communicate as often as possible with you
When someone is into you, they will be in regular communication with you, they will call you, they will chat with you, they will text you as the case maybe just to hear from you.
- 𝑺𝒖𝒃𝒋𝒆𝒄𝒕 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐 𝒑𝒓𝒂𝒚𝒆𝒓𝒔
Prayer remains the master key. So, for your time not to be wasted, for you not to chase away suitors, for your heart not to be broken, subject everything to God in prayers.
“Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:” (Matthew 7:7 KJV)
“The secret things belong unto the Lord our God: but those things which are revealed belong unto us and to our children for ever, that we may do all the words of this law”.(Deuteronomy 29:29 KJV)
If you are in a relationship with a guy and you are not sure if this guy is God’s will or even serious for marriage, you have some prayers to do.
This is one of the reasons why it is important that before you enter into a relationship with a man or woman, you have a relationship with God so you will be able to receive divine direction and guidance.
In conclusion, when a guy is serious with you, you will know it, you will feel it. These signs will be available.
