No one enters a relationship without a past or previous personal experiences. Yet, couples often forget that the past is part of each person’s journey. It holds valuable lessons that help us grow and become better individuals.
When starting a relationship, respect each other’s past and any personal information shared. Let it stay in the past and remain between the two of you. If either of you is struggling with something from the past that could affect your relationship, talk about it openly and seek counselling to find the best way to deal with it.
Before getting married, committing to the relationship, or making any major investment in it, have honest conversations about past relationships or habits that may still be a challenge. Once you’ve committed or are married, there’s no need to dig into your partner’s past out of suspicion or to find faults.
Remember, anyone who digs too deep for a fish may end up with a snake. Digging too deeply into your partner’s past can reveal things that may damage your relationship, break trust, and destroy the love you share.
Suspicion makes people quick to believe anything they hear or see, and such people are easily misled. You might receive false information about your partner, from the wrong source, or misinterpret something that could ruin the trust and beauty of your relationship. Many people do this when they suspect their partner is being unfaithful.
Sometimes, when a partner becomes unfaithful, it’s not just about them; it may also reflect something missing in the relationship. A happy partner rarely cheats. So ask: What are they looking for elsewhere that they can’t find in the relationship? Have they spoken up but felt ignored? Do they feel neglected or taken for granted? These are issues couples often overlook, but they can cause deep hurt.
Let’s be each other’s keeper in our relationships. Listen to one another, offer support, be present, and protect the bond you share. Nurture your love with care and understanding.
In conclusion, “love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs” – 1 Corinthians 13:5 (GNT).
