Many men out there are looking for an independent woman. A woman who is working, who is taking care of herself (pays her own bills, buys her own things), who does not live at the expense of others, a woman who owns her own place. A woman who is mature and intelligent, supports herself entirely on her own and is proud to be able to do so.
But there are a couple of things which are her policy or hidden codes and any man who wants to date her must know. Not all men are able to know these hidden codes and as a result, their relationship does not work out. Below are some of them to guide you.
First of all, she wants freedom; she wants to be free and do what she wants, go where she wants, she does not want a man who is controlling, who wants to restrict her movement, a man who has to approve of every decision of hers. She might need your opinion or suggestion on her decisions but not approval.
Secondly, she wants a partner, a man she can associate with, work with, build with, and not a man to depend on. She is not looking for a man who will depend on her either. Someone whose association or partnership or relationship enhances her life and not someone who will make her life worse.
Thirdly, she is not looking for a man who comes to sleep over and go, she is single but not a prostitute and her place is not a hotel for men to walk in and walk out. For that matter, she is particular about the man she brings home. Her place is not a restaurant where any man comes to eat and go. She is not looking forward to being a personal cook to any man. She cooks and eats with the man she considers a partner. Her family.
Fourthly, she is thinking of settling down with a man who is serious and knows what he wants. A man who is willing and committed to building with her and not the man who comes to depend on what she has built over the years. She wants a man who is sensitive enough to know what she needs at home and in her life, and whenever he visits he sees how best he can partner with her. Not a man who comes to lean on the little she has achieved.
Lastly, she is looking for a companion and not a sex mate. She is alone but not horny (wanting to have sex or being sexually aroused or excited)., lonely and desperate. She is on her own, she is the Boss Lady and knows what she wants, she is not weak, she is strong that is why she can stand on her own.
“Live like free people, but don’t use your freedom as an excuse to do evil. Live as those who are serving God” – 1 Peter 2:16 (ERV).
