Falling in love can be a beautiful experience; having a special friend you share everything with, are open to and caring, makes life a little better. Sometimes we wish these friendships we call Relationship or Dating never end, but unfortunately, it does happen, mostly on painful notes. Some of these Relationships end on a bitter note and it changes our perception of a relationship.
Others live on the memories of the relationship, and it makes it hard for them to believe that all they had meant nothing to their Ex-lover; you find it hard to believe he or she is gone and is happy with someone else. These thoughts do nothing but cause you pain. In some cases, you try to reach out to your Ex-lover just to see how he or she is happy without you; sometimes you miss them so much and wish you can start a new page.
With some people distance or geographical location, career path, family beliefs, health conditions just makes it impossible to keep the relationship; letting go now becomes a battle between the mind and the heart. One wants to let go, the other holds on to it. In other circumstances, betrayal, cheating, abuse and hurt make one cut off the friendship but they don’t stop loving them in their hearts.
You might be good friends because they knew all the best stories of your life but you were not best friends. Best friends are not persons who only know your secrets or everything about you as people think, but they also live through the experiences with you. They don’t leave. To them, life is not beautiful without you. But sadly some of these lovers leave without goodbyes, won’t answer your phone calls or return them, not to talk of replying a text.
They avoid and make you feel you don’t matter. It really hurts the worst when the person that made you feel so special yesterday makes you feel so unwanted today. As hard as it maybe we accept our new fate and let go. People move on, some pretend to have moved on. The things around, such as the people colours, places, songs, etc, sometimes bring back the memories.
We finally get to know these Ex-lovers better after the relationship ends and realize that many of the experiences you went through, you did so because you were just stupidly in love and didn’t know them that much. The danger is when you fail to learn from the past. As much as it hurts, it was teaching you some useful lessons you need. But people don’t do that and easily jump into the arms of their Ex-lovers when they come around, thinking they can make things work because of how they feel about them.
What they didn’t know was that sometimes God sends an Ex-lover back into your life to see if you are still stupid. If you have learned your lesson, the question to ask the Ex-lover is if it didn’t work the first time, what makes them think it could this time? If you didn’t learn the lesson, the second try is sure to fail. Don’t keep yourself in cycles and blame others for that. Stop recycling bad and old relationships.
In conclusion “A fool doing some stupid thing a second time is like a dog going back to its vomit” – Proverbs 26:11 (GNT).
