If you are in a relationship where your fiancĂ© cheats on you and all you ask is for him to compensate you then you don’t know the value of the relationship, and not just that, you don’t know the value of loyalty. For its loyalty that makes a relationship like marriage valuable. You don’t need a gift or compensation from a cheating spouse, if so then what you are just telling him is that, its fine or okay to cheat and afterwards all he needs is to compensate you. You are not interested in the change of his behaviour but rather in the gift you will get as a result of his behaviour.
No matter how expensive or huge the gift or price of the compensation maybe it cannot be compared to the devotion or loyalty of a spouse. No amount of money or compensation can equal that. But when you reduce the price of loyalty to a compensation, you make it easy for your spouse to cheat on you always. Its sad to know lots of people are in relationships yet don’t really know the value of a relationship, especially marriage. If people really knew the value of such relationships, they wouldn’t put their relationship on the line or risk it for nothing.
If they knew the value of their relationship, the fear of losing the relationship will prevent them from cheating on their spouse. It makes no sense for someone to accept you, agree to forsake others for you, leave their family, friends, home for you, agree to share their lives with you, only for you to leave them in pursuit of another person. When you do that, you are just telling your spouse that the new person is better or more valuable than them.
That is why when you come to apologize, beg or ask them to accept you back, they keep asking for the reason you left them for someone else or why you cheated on them.
It is easy to say it was a mistake but people repeat this same mistake over and over again. I am convinced it is not a mistake, its just that they don’t know the value of the relationship they had.
The next time someone or your partner cheats on you, don’t accept compensation from them and don’t ask them to compensate you. No gift or amount of money should be more expensive than your loyalty towards each other and your devotion to the relationship. If you are devoted and they are not, let them go. Until they know the value of loyalty, they don’t deserve to be in a relationship with you.
Such people don’t know the pain or hurt associated with the feeling of betrayal. Those who do know the pain also know the value of loyalty and appreciate the cost of betrayal. If he is not ready to show that, dont let him buy you that. loyalty cannot be bought, it is a character trait and if he got it, he will bear it; for every tree bears its fruit. “A good tree produces good fruit, and a bad tree produces bad fruit. A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot produce good fruit”- Matthew 7:17-18 (CEV).
In conclusion, “People who try hard to do good and be faithful will find life, goodness, and honor”- Proverbs 21:21 (ERV)