The Cause of Problem in Relationships. sometimes is the definition we place on it.
You want a total commitment in your relationship, but what of your partner? do they want the same?; does he or she define and see relationship the way you do?.
To avoid this clash of interest the best thing to do is to do what I call RELATIONSHIP DEFINITION, define the relationship on time with your partner to be, know his or her own definition when it comes to relationship
And let them know yours too, set priorities, goals, and boundaries; know if you both have the same thing in common. Before moving forward with the relationship.
I have come to study that most relationships were not defined from the beginning and when those things one of the partners in the relationship don’t want or like,
Starts coming into the relationship it turns into a big problem for them and when they let their partner to know about it, he or she sees it as a controlling act because they can’t understand why they are just saying it now.
And sometimes in some cases the other partner may have being looking down on those things, until it has come to a point that they can’t handle it anymore, that is when they will start asking questions.
In some cases, for the affected partner to leave the relationship becomes hard for them because they have been putting in so much emotion and energy in building the relationship, and when this happens,
It won’t take a long time. The relationship will turn into abusive one. The reason is that one is now being subjected against his or her relationship values.
Defining your relationship at the beginning helps you to be in control of the relationship and not it being in control of you. It also helps both partners to have a common goal to pursue in the relationship.
