What are the qualities of a wife and the qualities of a husband?
Let’s go back to Eden again to look into that. But let’s start first with the petty issues.
FOOD
Though Eve was deceived in Eden by the serpent through food. But she exhibited some outstanding qualities every woman should possess as a good wife.
“When the woman SAW that the FRUIT of the tree was GOOD FOR FOOD and PLEASING TO THE EYE, and also DESIRABLE FOR GAINING WISDOM, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it ( Genesis 3 : 6 NIV)
Let’s put aside the deception part of in this story —you already know it. Let’s focus on the wife qualities that Eve displayed there.
Eve had been feeding Adam very well. She had been giving him the right food with the right nutrients at the right time. She understood food and nutrition very well. She didn’t just go for anything or prepared just anything for Adam to eat. This is a very good quality a lady should develop in herself as a wife before she gets married. When it comes to food, you should develop the qualities Eve exhibited in Even.
What are those qualities?
1) SHE KNEW FOOD AND NUTRITION
She took time to study the fruit of the tree carefully. In fact, she already had certain criteria every food should and must have before she eats and also gives her husband to eat. She was so careful about food. So she studied them.
“When the woman SAW that the FRUIT of the tree was good for food… “
Before she saw that the fruit was good for food, she observed and studied it carefully. Are you studying food and nutrition? This is not a subject or course to be studied as a student in school alone, though that is needful and helpful. But it is something that you as a woman should be studying as a wife and a mother to be. You should invest time, resource and focus to study, know and understand food and their nutrients very well, in their varieties.
Study to know the nutrient contents of various types of food. Learn how to cook them. Practice the cooking of various foods over and over again until you can prepare them deliciously and nutritiously. With the internet this day, you can know about any kind of food and learn how to cook them personally and perfectly in short time. Google and YouTube will help you on this. Search to study the nutritional benefits of food on Google and see the video of how to cook them on YouTube.
2) SHE KNEW ALL FOODS ARE NOT GOOD FOR FOOD
Eve knew, we are what we eat. She knew that what she gives her family to eat determines how they will be bodily, emotionally and mentally.
Foods are chemicals. When they get into the body, they could build the body or kill the body. So Eve looked carefully to see if the fruit was good for food. Though she focused so much on the physical nutritional benefits without considering the spiritual implications. That was what the devil used to deceive her.
“When the woman SAW that the FRUIT of the tree was GOOD FOR FOOD… “
Many married women are killing the health of their husband and children more than they are building it, with the kind of food they cook and what they give them to eat. If something is NOT GOOD FOR FOOD, it is NOT GOOD FOR THE BODY
3) SHE KNEW FOOD SHOULD BE ATTRACTIVE TO A MAN
Men are drawn by the sight of good food. Not only men, the sights of good food attracts children too. It’s a woman’s responsibility to know how to cook and prepare foods that are very attractive to both her husband and children. Eve knew this and she considered it as one of the criteria a good food should have
“When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and PLEASING TO THE EYE…”
The way food is served could make it very attractive and pleasing to the eyes. Good woman don’t just throw food at their men or on the table for him any how. They set the dinning and food in a very decent and appealing way always. All men loved to be served in a special way. Even children love it too.
The act of serving is as important as the act of cooking. The way food is served is as important as the way it is cooked. It’s both the way a food is cooked and served that makes it appealing. Learn it and know it very well, even before you start thinking about marriage.
4) SHE KNEW GOOD FOOD AIDS MENTAL DEVELOPMENT AND FUNCTIONS
When we eat well, we sleep well, develop well and think well too. Eve knew this and she checked out if the fruit could aid mental development and if it was good for mental health.
“When the woman SAW that the FRUIT of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also DESIRABLE FOR GAINING WISDOM,.. “
Not everything that goes into the stomach is healthy for the brain. Not every food that feeds the body nourishes the brain and aids cognitive ability and mental development. Sound mind, to some extent, is a product of good food that are pleasing to the eyes and able to make one wise. All these are the things you should learn, know and understand about foods while you are still single. This might look petty, but it’s very important and essential in a home, family and marriage.
As a woman, you can always draw your man’s heart towards you and make him eager to come home by the way you cook and the kind of foods you prepare always. To some extent, the way to a man’s heart is his stomach. Most men love good foods, especially the type they like and enjoyed eating. If you know how to cook varieties of foods in delicious and appealing ways before marriage, it’s a plus for you in marriage, not a minus. If a woman is skillful in the kitchen, she would be able to keep a home. Some women have lost their homes and marriages because they very lazy, unskilled and are terribly bad at cooking.
However, this does not concern women alone. Every man who desires to get married some day should learn both the act and art of cooking too. It’s a big plus for you as a man, if you are very good at cooking delicious and nutritious meals before you get married. Women too need to rest many times, while the man does the cooking. But you would fail in kitchen if you have not learnt and mastered how to cook very well when you were single.
