Sometimes women especially are too blind with their emotions or feelings for the man they love, to see the notice he served. Some ladies are so much drowned in love that they cannot realize the departure of their partner. They get to the place of confusion; they don’t know whether they are in a relationship or not.
I promise to be as honest as I can with this write up, ladies need to know that when a man has lost interest in a relationship with them, they give them excuses why they cannot see them, why they cannot call them, why they cannot receive their calls or return them. They make excuses why they have forgotten about them.
Sadly, some ladies buy into such lies and when they get tired of trying, they eventually leave or shift their attention to someone or something else. When a man loves you, no person or thing or a project or job can take your place in their mind. To the man, love is in the brain and not in the heart. If he cannot remember you, it simply means you no longer exist in his brain or you are now in the archives or have been overwritten by someone else.
So, while you hold on to the feelings you have for him, how he made you feel, how your heart beats for them, to him you are history. No matter the number of times you call or the messages you sent, the lesson is over. The chemistry is dead, what is left is history. He does not want to feel guilty for leaving so he gives you false hope, using an existing project or incoming one as an escape.
Ladies need to know, men don’t approach them just because of sex; men want a friend, he wants his woman to be his best friend. Someone who will vibe with him, flow with him, dine with him, dance with him, ride with him, build with him, grow with, live with, wake up with. He goes through his days with you in the back of his mind. You are constantly present.
His woman is the first person he wants to share the exciting news he came across or received during the day, be it a project, new offer, plans, adventures, decisions, future, vision, etc. She is the same person he wants to share his frustration with, his sadness, bad news, disappointment, etc and all he goes through during the day.
No matter how long the meeting at the office was, the first person whose voice he wants to hear after the meeting is his woman. No matter how long and tiring the journey was, the first person he wants to see is his woman. No matter how busy he was during the day, the first person he wants to talk to is his woman. If he is using work, project, family, etc to avoid talking to you, your guess is as good as mine.
If you are in a relationship with a man you see a future with but who has started giving you excuses why he cannot see you or talk to you, that’s the right time to find out your place in his life. There are chances he has met someone else or is talking to someone else. That is the perfect time you tell him to be honest with you. For whatever matters to him also matters to you. You are not telling him not to work because you love him. Your call is not a distraction, you care about him so he should open up on his intension.
If after all that there is no response for a change from him, gather all the strength you need to move on. The truth is, you no longer have a space in his mind, that is why you are not welcomed or entertained. You don’t want to be seen as a nuisance. Have self-respect for yourself instead of self-pity.
, “Wise people see trouble coming and get out of its way, but fools go straight to the trouble and suffer for it” – Proverbs 27:12 (ERV).
