A disagreement with a toxic partner will turn into an argument that turns into a fight & becomes a bigger problem. A small problem which should be solved but attached with their egotistical pride ,They turn it to war while A disagreement with a mature & emotionally stable person will turn into a conversation that leads to a solution or changed behaviour.
On a serious note – Some of you are are in a relationship with a mad person that needs urgent check up & but unfortunately you keep giving excuses on their behalf !! No one should be okay staying in a relationship with a toxic partner. It’s destroyed you as a human, it’s start by destroying the way you see things, the way you handle things and how you go about things. Toxicity is toxicity, there shouldn’t be an excuse for it,same reason most people stay in jobs they hate is not because of lack of options… but simply because of low self-esteem.
Your boss will tell you for years, that you are not ‘good enough’ to get a promotion or a pay rise, until you start to believe it.
Whether it be a relationship or a job, no matter how much value you bring, constant criticism and negative feedback will slowly start to diminished your self-esteem.
This is why the worst thing you can do is to become comfortable in a toxic environment. Because the longer you stay there, the more you’ll normalise toxicity. What you tolerate takes advantage of your tolerance.
Abusive Dynamics aren’t created over night. Nobody volunteers to work in a toxic environment or to be in an abusive relationship, such dynamics are established over time.
Each time you permit your boundaries to be ignored rather than reaffirmed when you’re disrespected, you slowly normalise being mistreated; to the detriment of your self-esteem.
And once your self-esteem is low enough, you become easy to manipulate, control or exploit.
Your mind will normalise almost any environment it’s constantly exposed to, even if it’s a toxic environment. If you stay there long enough, you will become accustomed to mistreatment or abuse.
So always trust your instincts and never negotiate your boundaries, no matter the justification. These set of TOXIC PEOPLE ARE USUALLY VERY MANIPULATIVE!
Toxic People will try so hard to condition you to believe that it’s not their abuse thats the problem but, the way you react. When they hurt & you leave the problem to them will be you leaving & not that they abused you. When you avoid them they won’t look at why you avoided them they will look at you avoiding them as the problem.
Don’t be manipulated into believing that there is something wrong with the way you react to their bad behaviour or treatment. People that abuse you will study you & make sure they emotionally blackmail you into thinking that you are actually the problem & not them. Nomatter what you’ve invested, built or think you’ll be missing it’s not worth staying where your value is abused & compromised. I stretch my hands open and hug those of you & speak strength!
