People can have many definitions for the word STRONG and who a strong partner or spouse is. You can choose to label one as strong because they have financial power or muscle in the relationship or marriage.
One can talk about sexual drive; how much you last in bed or can make your partner happy sexually or how strong you are physically or how well built you are.
In all these definitions, one expects men to have more power or strength than the wife. So, in some marriages when the woman or wife is seen as strong in terms of any of the areas listed above, the man feels bad and thinks he will lose his place in the marriage as a man.
Well, personally none of the above defines strength for me in marriage; how physically built one is, how much they earn or how well they perform in bed, etc.
Being strong is about identifying your weakness and dealing with them gracefully. A man or woman who does not accept their weakness or does not work on them is not strong. They are rather weak. In the scripture in 1 Peter 3:7, when Apostle Paul described women as a weaker vessel, he was talking about physical strength.
But problems in marriages, what contributes largely to divorce has more to do with one’s weakness, character, behaviours, attitudes, etc. than the physical strength.
A strong person turns their weakness into their strength. Unfortunately for lots of men, they have failed at doing so. They have rather accepted weakness as their strength, some of these weaknesses are womanizing, drinking, smoking or drug abuse.
Not everyone is able to identify their weakness but once you are married or in a relationship, you have allowed someone to be your mirror; to see the things that need to be worked on. Once you embrace their findings and work on them, you become a strong person in the relationship.
In conclusion, “A truly good friend will openly correct you. You can trust a friend who corrects you, but kisses from an enemy are nothing but lies.” – Proverbs 27:5-6 (CEV).
