In my line of duty or work, I have met lots of people who have not healed from their previous relationships yet they are in a new relationship and with the least thing, they get so emotional. Making their partner feel terrible for hurting them.
Their constant hurt is not all because of what their partner did but as a result of the hurt or pains they have been nesting from previous relationships which they have not dealt with. To them, they are using the current relationship or partner to get over the past and the pain.
Some people have developed hatred for the opposite gender because of their past experiences, thereby denying themselves of love in the process.
If you fall within any of these categories of people, you need counseling or therapy. No matter how painful the past was, you cannot undo it. All you have to do is to heal from it. Therapy or counseling will help you talk about it, deal with your emotions.
You need to ask yourself what lesson you have learnt from what you went through. When you are able to answer that question, let the answer be your focus instead of the hurt the person caused you.
You need to grow from what you went through. Stop thinking of the people you loved and cared for who treated you badly. You only cause yourself a great deal of suffering doing that.
You need peace within you and you can achieve that by forgiving those who hurt you. Don’t wait for the people who hurt you to apologize or show remorse before you forgive them. Do that for yourself, give your soul a gift of peace.
Focus on your personal development, waste no time on revenge or developing hatred for those who hurt you. Spend that time loving the people who love and appreciate you. Accept that you deserve better and letting go of the past is the best thing to do.
In conclusion, “Get rid of all bitterness, passion, and anger. No more shouting or insults, no more hateful feelings of any sort.” – Ephesians 4:31 (GNT).
