A quick reminder ladies.
Suffering with a man is not a guarantee that he will marry you when things eventually change for him.
He will upgrade to fit in his new status. So when suffering with a man, building a man’s career instead of building your own foundation bear this in mind that he doesn’t owe you MARRIAGE!!!
Our mentality of, if you suffer with him, he’ll marry you when things turn around, only happens for 1% of people who are honestly in love with each other.
He might be loyal to you because he doesn’t have any other choice for now, you might think or feel he doesn’t know you sleep with other men to finance his pocket because he needs that money. Once things starts happening for him, he will tell you to your face that he’s sorry he can’t marry a CHEAT. Then you will join the team of, after everything I did for him.
Another thing, don’t suppress yourself to please any man. If a man is intimidated by your lifestyle, that means he’s not for you. If you can afford a good hair and look classy, then men who hate artificial hair is not for you, or you will be forced to start wearing your natural hair only and you know, not everyone look beautiful in natural hair alone.
There are men who take their women to a very beautiful boutiques and shop for them. Men who orders food for their women not the type that will force you to be in the kitchen all the time. There are Men who orders beautiful shoes and have them delivered to their women, Men who reminds their women that their nails is due to change, Men who transfers money to their woman even before they ask. Men who can book a room in a hotel for their weekend. Men who truly want to always see their women genuinely happy all the time.
These type of Men are everywhere but they want women who have visions and respect for themselves.
You attract your type remember, so if you build yourself, you’ll meet Men who have built themselves, not men who are comfortable with having their women build them. In life, you get what you give.
Ladies, learn to invest your money too, investment is not for the men alone. Buy lands, aspire to have your own Empire.
Attend seminars, career seminars. Read books, not motivational books that will keep telling you to always pray and watch, No. PRAY, PLAN AND WORK.
If you have not finished your cement in building for that guy, then reserve it for your own building so that if he eventually changes his mind in the future, you’ll have a strong foundation to fall back on.
Love him with your heart and not your money. I’ve heard where a guy arranges his girlfriend for men in exchange for money and you’ll hear the girl saying, he loves me so much, he doesn’t even mind after all, I am making the money for both of us SMH . Tomorrow you think the guy will be foolish enough to wife you? Sorry ooo.
I know my ladies knows better not to try this shit, but I just needed to pass it on anyways
