Married couples need to know their spouse’s love language. When you know your spouse’s love language, you will be able to meet their expectations.
It possible you have the same love language and you may have a different love language from your spouse. What is important is for you to know and speak their love language for peace to reign in your home.
Failure to speak each other love language may result in a lack of peace in the home.
How?
Before I explain how failure to speak each other love language can result in a lack of peace, I will like to list the different type of love language we have according to GARY CHAPMAN
According to GARY CHAPMAN, there are Five (5) Love Languages
QUALITY TIME
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
RECEIVING GIFT
ACTS OF SERVICE
PHYSICAL TOUCH
1) QUALITY TIME: Some people love language is quality time, they love spending time with their spouse, they want their spouse to spend quality time with them, talking, gisting, planning, gossiping, etc
When this need is not meet, they tend to feel lonely. Hence, the person may feel unloved, uncared for…
2) WORDS OF AFFIRMATION: Some people love languages are words of affirmation. They need to hear it regularly, they need their spouse to tell them👉 You are beautiful/you are handsome, I thank God I meet you, you are loved and value, you are my King/Queen, thank you for doing this, etc
If their spouse fails to give them the words of affirmation, they may feel their spouse did not appreciate them and this can lead to an unwanted situation in the home.
3) RECEIVING GIFT: Some people love language is receiving gifts, just be buying gifts for them, they need this constantly if their spouse refuses to buy gifts for them, they may not allow their spouse to have peace in the house as they will always feel that their spouse did not meet up their needs.
4) ACTS OF SERVICE: Some people love language as an act of service, this type of people need their spouses to be there for them, to assist them with domestic work, they want their spouse to support them…if their spouse fails to meet up with their needs, they begin to nag, murmur, and complaining… This can result in conflict if care is not taking.
5) PHYSICAL TOUCH: Physical touch is very important to many people, they need to curdle, hug, peg…regularly, if their spouses fail to do this to them, they feel unloved, uncared for, un-valued, unwanted, neglected, rejected…
Many people want their spouse to spend quality time with them, buy them gifts, tell them how beautiful/handsome, lovely they are and want to be touched constantly. Most importantly, they want their spouse to assist them with house chores. Hence, your spouse wants you to know and speak all the above-mentioned love language regularly.
No matter how busy your schedule is, try to know your spouse’s love language and speak it daily, it’s healthy for your marriage.
God bless you.
