Men attend to Women for two reasons, SEX, LOVE and RESPECT, but in most cases, men do not Marry for Sex or for Love, they marry for STABILITY. Let me explain:
A man can Love you and not Marry you. An unregenerate man can have sex with you for years without marrying you. But immediately he finds someone who brings stability in his life, he marries her.
What I mean by Stability is “Peace of Mind”. I have seen some guys who made this statement “I love this lady but I don’t think I can spend the rest of my life with her.” Men are visionaries when they think about marriage, they do not think about wedding dresses, bridesmaids, or anything that most Ladies thinks is fanciful.
They think whether this woman can build me a home, Can she take care of my kids and I, Can she give me PEACE of mind? Men don’t like Ladies who gives them discomfort and demand for many things, This is why a man can stay with a woman for years and meet another in a month, then get married to her.
It’s the comfort of having Peace of Mind they want.
Sex is a pleasure, love is an affection, RESPECT is Stability. Respect is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. But what exactly is respect? Respect means that you recognize that your partner is a whole person, and not just a way to get something that you want. It means that you know your partner has different experiences and opinions from you, and that’s OK.
Scripture teaches us that Christians should honor or respect all men (1 Peter 2:17). Every human being bears the image of God, and so, of course, we are called on to respect and honor that. And of course, Scripture also teaches us to love our neighbor (Leviticus 19:18), and Jesus in his famous story makes the point that our neighbor is whatever person God has placed right in front of us (Luke 10:29–37). So all Christians are to love everyone, and all Christians should honor everyone. That is the baseline.
But when we come down to the particular relationship of husbands to wives, and wives to husbands, Scripture gives us an important, additional emphasis. Husbands are told specifically to love their wives as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). Wives are told specifically to respect their husbands as the church does Christ (Ephesians 5:33).
A woman loved by her husband will grow in loveliness. A man respected by his wife will become more respectable. In the same way, husbands are told to love their wives because it is easy for husbands not to do so. Wives are told to honor their husbands because it is easy for wives not to do so. We are called to do things that might not occur to us. If we were all doing these things naturally, why bring it up?
Women are better at loving than men are. Men do well at respecting. Women think of love as taking trouble for others — which is much closer to a scriptural agape love than what men naturally do. Men tend to think of love as not giving trouble to others. So men must be called to sacrifice for their wives, to take trouble for them, as Christ gave himself for the church. Women must be urged to respect their husbands.
A woman can naturally love a man she does not honor or respect very much, and this is something that Paul would identify as a trouble. How many times have we heard a terrible story about a girl returning to her abusive boyfriend because she “loves him,” even though he treats her like dirt? But if we asked her if she respects him, she would reply, “Are you kidding? Him?” And men must be called to give themselves away for their wives.
