In my capacity as a relationship coach, I have come across folks who are being (or have been) pushed into marriage by 𝒑𝒂𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓, 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒊𝒓 𝒇𝒂𝒎𝒊𝒍𝒚 𝒎𝒆𝒎𝒃𝒆𝒓𝒔, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒑𝒆𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒆. I have, in fact, seen forced marriages experience the worst turbulence ever!
I have heard guys say, “𝑰 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒈𝒊𝒓𝒍…. 𝑰 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒊𝒏 𝒎𝒚 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒔𝒉𝒆’𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒎𝒆…. 𝑩𝒖𝒕 𝒎𝒚 𝒑𝒂𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓 𝒔𝒂𝒚𝒔 𝑰 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅𝒏’𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒚 𝒉𝒆𝒓…. 𝑴𝒚 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒔 𝒅𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒉𝒆𝒓, 𝒔𝒐 𝑰 𝒄𝒂𝒏’𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒚 𝒉𝒆𝒓.”
It became clear to me that so many people don’t understand yet…..
Let me reveal something to you:
First, a question: 𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐲 𝐡𝐨𝐦𝐞? 𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐝𝐯𝐢𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐫?
If people could answer this question, we wouldn’t have some of the problems we have.
You are told to take the person you want to marry home to your parents, 𝑵𝑶𝑻 𝑻𝑶 𝑮𝑬𝑻 𝑨𝑷𝑷𝑹𝑶𝑽𝑨𝑳…. 𝒑𝒂𝒚 𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏….. 𝑵𝑶𝑻 𝑻𝑶 𝑮𝑬𝑻 𝑨𝑷𝑷𝑹𝑶𝑽𝑨𝑳 𝑭𝑹𝑶𝑴 𝑻𝑯𝑬𝑴…… 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒂𝒖𝒔𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒉𝒐𝒏𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎!
𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑝𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑠 𝑠𝒉𝑜𝑢𝑙𝑑𝑛’𝑡 𝑐𝒉𝑜𝑜𝑠𝑒 𝑤𝒉𝑜 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑚𝑎𝑟𝑟𝑦… 𝑇𝒉𝑒𝑦 𝑠𝒉𝑜𝑢𝑙𝑑𝑛’𝑡 𝑡𝑒𝑙𝑙 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑤𝒉𝑒𝑡𝒉𝑒𝑟 𝑡𝑜 𝑚𝑎𝑟𝑟𝑦 𝑡𝒉𝑖𝑠 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑜𝑛 𝑜𝑟 𝑛𝑜𝑡. 𝑇𝒉𝑒𝑦 𝑠𝒉𝑜𝑢𝑙𝑑𝑛’𝑡 𝑡𝑒𝑙𝑙 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑖𝑓 𝑡𝒉𝑒 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑜𝑛 𝑖𝑠 𝑔𝑜𝑜𝑑 𝑜𝑟 𝑏𝑎𝑑! 𝑇𝒉𝑎𝑡’𝑠 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑤𝒉𝑦 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑡𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑡𝒉𝑒𝑚 𝒉𝑜𝑚𝑒.
You take your lady to your parents, 𝘽𝙀𝘾𝘼𝙐𝙎𝙀 𝙔𝙊𝙐 𝙃𝙊𝙉𝙊𝙐𝙍 𝙔𝙊𝙐𝙍 𝙋𝘼𝙍𝙀𝙉𝙏𝙎 and you have decided to bring them into 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒅𝒆𝒄𝒊𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒎𝒂𝒅𝒆. Their role is not to “approve” per se…. Their role is to 𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐨𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦, 𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐢𝐟 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐜𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐦𝐚𝐝𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐢𝐜𝐞; 𝐨𝐫 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐚𝐝𝐯𝐢𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐝𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐢𝐜𝐞. Any parent who imposes anything on their full-grown child IS WRONG TO DO THAT!
You don’t get it….. I’ll explain…
According to the scriptures, before a man gets married, 𝙝𝙚 𝙢𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙛𝙞𝙧𝙨𝙩 𝘿𝙀𝙏𝘼𝙏𝘾𝙃! He must leave father and mother, and that emancipation is what prepares him for cleaving to his wife in marriage. That act of detachment is what makes him a man. 𝑨 𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒎𝒂𝒍𝒆 𝒊𝒏𝒅𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒅𝒖𝒂𝒍 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒊𝒔 𝒇𝒖𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒑𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒊𝒃𝒍𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒊𝒔 𝒂𝒃𝒍𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒅𝒆𝒄𝒊𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒐𝒏 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒐𝒘𝒏, 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒔𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒅 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒉𝒐𝒐𝒅.
That literally means, 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗗𝗢𝗡’𝗧 𝗧𝗘𝗟𝗟 𝗔 𝗠𝗔𝗡 𝗪𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗧𝗢 𝗗𝗢; 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗖𝗔𝗡 𝗢𝗡𝗟𝗬 𝗔𝗗𝗩𝗜𝗦𝗘 𝗔 𝗠𝗔𝗡 𝗢𝗡 𝗪𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗧𝗢 𝗗𝗢, 𝙀𝙑𝙀𝙉 𝙄𝙁 𝙉𝘼 𝙔𝙊𝙐 𝘽𝙊𝙍𝙉 𝘼𝙈!
Read this carefully, folks:
𝑨 𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒈𝒐𝒆𝒔 𝒂𝒈𝒂𝒊𝒏𝒔𝒕 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒔’ 𝒘𝒊𝒔𝒉𝒆𝒔, 𝒆𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒊𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒂𝒔 𝒊𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒄𝒆𝒓𝒏𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒏 𝒐𝒇 𝑮𝒐𝒅 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒉𝒊𝒎, 𝑯𝑨𝑺 𝑵𝑶𝑻 𝑺𝑰𝑵𝑵𝑬𝑫 𝑨𝑮𝑨𝑰𝑵𝑺𝑻 𝑮𝑶𝑫!
If you find a girl to marry, and having abided by the principles guiding marriage, you’re sure this lady is God’s will for you, mark my words….. 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐏𝐀𝐑𝐄𝐍𝐓’𝐒 𝐂𝐎𝐔𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐑𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐎𝐏𝐈𝐍𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒 𝐃𝐎𝐍’𝐓 𝐌𝐀𝐓𝐓𝐄𝐑… 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐏𝐀𝐒𝐓𝐎𝐑’𝐒 𝐍𝐄𝐆𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐎𝐏𝐈𝐍𝐈𝐎𝐍 𝐃𝐎𝐄𝐒𝐍’𝐓 𝐌𝐀𝐓𝐓𝐄𝐑. 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐭 𝐆𝐨𝐝? 𝐍𝐎𝐏𝐄!
I’m sure you haven’t been told something like this… I’m here to rewire your brain.
𝐸𝑝𝒉𝑒𝑠𝑖𝑎𝑛𝑠 6:1-2…. 𝐶𝒉𝑖𝑙𝑑𝑟𝑒𝑛, 𝑜𝑏𝑒𝑦 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑝𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑠 𝑖𝑛 𝑡𝒉𝑒 𝐿𝑜𝑟𝑑: 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑡𝒉𝑖𝑠 𝑖𝑠 𝑟𝑖𝑔𝒉𝑡. 𝐻𝑜𝑛𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑡𝒉𝑦 𝑓𝑎𝑡𝒉𝑒𝑟 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑚𝑜𝑡𝒉𝑒𝑟; 𝑤𝒉𝑖𝑐𝒉 𝑖𝑠 𝑡𝒉𝑒 𝑓𝑖𝑟𝑠𝑡 𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑚𝑎𝑛𝑑𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑤𝑖𝑡𝒉 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑚𝑖𝑠𝑒.
Who is a child? 𝑨 𝒄𝒉𝒊𝒍𝒅 𝒊𝒔 𝒂𝒏 𝒊𝒏𝒅𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒅𝒖𝒂𝒍 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒘𝒉𝒐𝒎 𝒂𝒏 𝒂𝒅𝒖𝒍𝒕 𝒊𝒔 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒑𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒊𝒃𝒍𝒆, 𝒏𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒂𝒈𝒆. This means, if anything goes wrong, the adult is held responsible, because a child is not able to take responsibility yet. So because a child cannot take responsibility, it becomes the role of the patient who is responsible for the child TO TELL THE CHILD WHAT TO DO, and therefore that child is under obligation to OBEY the adult, since he is only a child, and presumably doesn’t know which way to go, and the adult knows better.
𝑭𝒐𝒓 𝒂𝒔 𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒔 𝒂𝒏 𝒊𝒏𝒅𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒅𝒖𝒂𝒍 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒖𝒆𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒓𝒆𝒎𝒂𝒊𝒏 𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒂𝒏 𝒂𝒅𝒖𝒍𝒕, 𝑯𝑬 𝑹𝑬𝑴𝑨𝑰𝑵𝑺 𝑨 𝑪𝑯𝑰𝑳𝑫, 𝑬𝑽𝑬𝑵 𝑨𝑻 45.
This is why the very first criterion for readiness for marriage is TO SEPARATE FROM THE ADULTS THAT GROOMED YOU, AND BECOME YOUR OWN ADULT, AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN ACTIONS. In such a situation, you are no longer under any obligation to obey. Now, as an adult, when you do what your parents tell you to do, you do it because you know it’s the right thing to do, not because they told you to do it. Am I making sense?!
What is retained is THE HONOUR you are to eternally extend to the adults that groomed you (vs 2 of Ephesians), which is why you owe them the kind gesture of taking that woman home to them, 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐅𝐎𝐑 𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐌 𝐓𝐎 𝐓𝐄𝐋𝐋 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐖𝐇𝐄𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐑 𝐓𝐎 𝐌𝐀𝐑𝐑𝐘 𝐇𝐄𝐑 𝐎𝐑 𝐍𝐎𝐓, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐬𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐘 𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐆𝐈𝐕𝐄 𝐁𝐋𝐄𝐒𝐒𝐈𝐍𝐆𝐒, 𝐄𝐋𝐃𝐄𝐑𝐋𝐘 𝐖𝐎𝐑𝐃𝐒 𝐎𝐅 𝐖𝐈𝐒𝐃𝐎𝐌, 𝐌𝐀𝐑𝐈𝐓𝐀𝐋 𝐈𝐍𝐒𝐈𝐆𝐇𝐓, 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐡 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐞𝐧𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐧𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐚𝐠𝐞, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐜𝐤 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐯𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐝𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐫 𝐧𝐨𝐭.
𝙸 𝚜𝚊𝚢 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚊𝚕𝚕 𝚖𝚢 𝚑𝚎𝚊𝚛𝚝 𝚋𝚎𝚌𝚊𝚞𝚜𝚎, 𝚠𝚎 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚖𝚎𝚗 𝚠𝚑𝚘 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚖𝚊𝚛𝚛𝚒𝚎𝚍 𝚠𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚢’𝚛𝚎 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚜𝚞𝚙𝚙𝚘𝚜𝚎𝚍 𝚝𝚘 𝚖𝚊𝚛𝚛𝚢, “𝑏𝑒𝑐𝑎𝑢𝑠𝑒 𝑚𝑦 𝑚𝑢𝑚 𝒉𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑠 𝑡𝒉𝑒 𝑜𝑡𝒉𝑒𝑟 𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝐼 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑤𝑎𝑛𝑡𝑒𝑑 𝑡𝑜 𝑚𝑎𝑟𝑟𝑦”. 𝚂𝚘 𝚖𝚊𝚗𝚢 𝚕𝚊𝚍𝚒𝚎𝚜 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚖𝚊𝚛𝚛𝚒𝚎𝚍 𝚖𝚎𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚢 𝚍𝚘𝚗’𝚝 𝚎𝚟𝚎𝚗 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎, “𝑏𝑒𝑐𝑎𝑢𝑠𝑒 𝑚𝑢𝑚𝑚𝑦 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒𝑠 𝒉𝑖𝑚 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝒉𝑒 𝒉𝑎𝑠 𝑚𝑜𝑛𝑒𝑦, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑖𝑡 𝑑𝑜𝑒𝑠𝑛’𝑡 𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑖𝑓 𝐼 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝒉𝑖𝑚”.
So many parents have destroyed their children’s destinies because they’re still trying to play a role in the life of a fellow adult from whom they were (supposedly) separated.
I wrote an article once, wherein I highlighted this point: 𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙞𝙩 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙙𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙮, 𝙙𝙤 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙗𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙖𝙡. Don’t follow what even your parents, pastor, or friends told you, because you love them. Loving them doesn’t mean they’re right. Of course no parent means to lead their child astray, 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒄𝒉𝒆𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒘𝒊𝒛𝒂𝒓𝒅𝒔 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒌𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆’𝒔 𝒄𝒉𝒊𝒍𝒅𝒓𝒆𝒏. Every parent means well for his or her child, and wants the best for them. But sometimes they try to trap you with sentiments and the love y’all share. Remember, that 𝙔𝙊𝙐𝙍 𝘿𝙀𝙎𝙏𝙄𝙉𝙔 𝙄𝙎 𝙁𝘼𝙍 𝙏𝙊𝙊 𝙄𝙈𝙋𝙊𝙍𝙏𝘼𝙉𝙏 𝙏𝙊 𝘽𝙀 𝙎𝙀𝙉𝙏𝙄𝙈𝙀𝙉𝙏𝘼𝙇 𝘼𝘽𝙊𝙐𝙏 𝘼𝙉𝙔𝙏𝙃𝙄𝙉𝙂!
“𝑰 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒍𝒂𝒅𝒚, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒎𝒚 𝒎𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒔𝒂𝒊𝒅 𝑰 𝒄𝒂𝒏’𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒚 𝒉𝒆𝒓, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝑰 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒎𝒚 𝒎𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓, 𝑰 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌 𝒔𝒉𝒆’𝒔 𝒓𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕. 𝑳𝒂𝒅𝒚, 𝒊𝒕’𝒔 𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒃𝒆𝒕𝒘𝒆𝒆𝒏 𝒖𝒔!”
BIG MISTAKE!
“𝑰 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒈𝒖𝒚, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒎𝒚 𝒇𝒂𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒔𝒂𝒊𝒅 𝒉𝒆 𝒅𝒐𝒆𝒔𝒏’𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒎𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒚 𝒔𝒐 𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒂𝒏’𝒕 𝒕𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒎𝒆. 𝑰 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒎𝒚 𝒇𝒂𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒎𝒚 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆, 𝒔𝒐 𝒉𝒆’𝒔 𝒓𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕. 𝑩𝒓𝒐, 𝒊𝒕’𝒔 𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒃𝒆𝒕𝒘𝒆𝒆𝒏 𝒖𝒔!”
ANOTHER BIG MISTAKE!
𝐃𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐲 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬.
That you love your parents doesn’t mean they are right all the time! Once you become an adult, your job is to weigh what anyone, 𝙞𝙣𝙘𝙡𝙪𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙨, tells you. Even your own parents and pastor CAN LEAD YOU ASTRAY! Write this down.
Jesus would confirm this… At some point, He kinda stopped listening to His mother. Mummy came to tell him that there was no more wine.
“What business do I have with you, woman?”, He said.
𝐉𝐞𝐬𝐮𝐬 𝐝𝐢𝐝 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐧 𝐰𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐇𝐢𝐬 𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐨𝐥𝐝 𝐇𝐢𝐦 𝐭𝐨; 𝐇𝐞 𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐢𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐇𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐨 (𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐅𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫).
His destiny was far more important than listening to some irrelevant things, EVEN THE ONES THAT CAME OUT OF HIS LOVELY MOTHER’S MOUTH!
𝑫𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒍𝒆𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒔, 𝒂𝒏 𝒆𝒍𝒅𝒆𝒓, 𝒄𝒉𝒖𝒓𝒄𝒉 𝒎𝒆𝒎𝒃𝒆𝒓𝒔, 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒄𝒊𝒆𝒕𝒚, 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒑𝒂𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓, 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅𝒔, 𝒐𝒓 𝒂𝒏𝒚𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒄𝒉𝒐𝒐𝒔𝒆 𝒂 𝒔𝒑𝒐𝒖𝒔𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒚𝒐𝒖! 𝑵𝒐𝒃𝒐𝒅𝒚 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒚, 𝒔𝒐 𝒘𝒉𝒚 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒚 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒎𝒖𝒄𝒉 𝒔𝒂𝒚 𝒂𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎 𝒐𝒓 𝒏𝒐𝒕? 𝑨𝒔 𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒇𝒐𝒍𝒍𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒅 𝑮𝒐𝒅’𝒔 𝒍𝒂𝒊𝒅-𝒅𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒑𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒄𝒊𝒑𝒍𝒆𝒔 𝒐𝒏 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒂𝒈𝒆, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖’𝒓𝒆 𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖’𝒗𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒓𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒐𝒏, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖’𝒓𝒆 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒐𝒍𝒍𝒆𝒅 𝒃𝒚 𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒆𝒎𝒐𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔, 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒏𝒐𝒃𝒐𝒅𝒚 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒕𝒆𝒍𝒍 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒚 𝒐𝒓 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒚, 𝑵𝑶𝑻 𝑬𝑽𝑬𝑵 𝑻𝑯𝑬 𝑴𝑶𝑺𝑻 𝑷𝑶𝑾𝑬𝑹𝑭𝑼𝑳 𝑷𝑹𝑶𝑷𝑯𝑬𝑻!
