Secrets kept from spouses and cancer are alike, the longer they remain undetected, the more damage they do. Trust and loyalty are critical elements for any healthy marriage but hidden sin eats away at the soul, preventing true, open relationship.
Biblical marriage is intended to embody self-sacrificial trust and unity, “oneness”, which is impossible when we hide from each other.
There are a lot of reasons not to “come clean” with your wife/husband. We’re masters at the half-truth, aren’t we?
If we rely on half-truths to avoid shame or to “save face” with our spouse, we’re deceiving him/her into believing something that isn’t true.
A prostitute in a wedding dress may fool a lot of people but the truth hasn’t been altered. However creative we may be doesn’t change the fact that we’re lying.
Half-truths are complete falsehoods.
It’s embarrassing, it’s hard, it’s often shameful, it’s hurtful . . . cancer is like that. But, the only way to stop the destruction is to cut it out while there is still time. Cutting hurts but there’s no avoiding it if your relationship is to be made whole.
Anticipating the consequences of such honesty keeps many from going all the way. What will she do if I confess? I’ve confessed to God but, what will my husband – wife – think of me if I open up and ask for forgiveness?
The consequences may be severe and you may need a wise, godly (biblical) couple or biblical counselors to help you walk through the process, especially if you’ve been keeping sin hidden. Your spouse might not forgive you right away . . . or maybe at all. Trust God. Do what is right and leave the consequences to Him.
Cancer is life threatening when undetected and left untreated. Secrets (especially secret sins) kept from our spouse are relationship threatening. Don’t keep them. Open up to the one who was designed to complete you and truly live as one.
“But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another . . . “ 1 John 1:7
No secrets, no shadows with the one you love.