Sex is never a validation for relationships and again, being in a relationship with someone or dating them doesn’t mean you are married to them or that you need to have sex to consummate the union. Unfortunately, many people are using sex to validate relationships and when such relationships don’t lead to marriage, the pain or the feeling of disappointment can lead to depression, heart break, etc.
Some ladies believe one sure way to know a man is serious with them or truly loves them is when he asks for sex or gets intimate with her. They turn to question or doubt the love of a guy who won’t ask sex from them.
They end up leaving a guy who truly loves and respects them for someone who is asking sex from them, because they believe the one asking for sex is more serious than the one who didn’t. Even when she is not willing to give in to the man’s request, her friends or siblings will push her to give in. As a matter of fact, some ladies believe they won’t get any man to marry them if they don’t give in to such demands.
They believe having sex with a man makes the man fully committed to the relationship. To them it means the relationship will end up in marriage. They are willing to go out loud for the one they had sex with but show little or no sign of commitment when they are with the man who has not had sex with them.
There are guys who will insist their partner has sex with them to show she loves him and is committed to the relationship. Failure to do so makes them question even the virginity of the lady. And if she is not a virgin, they see no reason why she won’t give in to their sex demands when she gave to someone in the past.
They find it difficult to trust her and believe she is having sex with someone else that is why she is not having it with them. They show no sign of seriousness in the relationship with the excuse that once they have sex with their lady, they will take her serious and be fully committed to the relationship.
We can’t use sex to measure trust in a relationship or to determine the commitment level in a relationship. Sex never joins the heart or the soul. What sex joins is the body. Having sex with someone doesn’t guarantee their love or trust for you, it just makes you develop lust or get attached to them. Each time you are together the only thing you share or have in common is sex.
There is always an issue of trust and insecurity. Your partner believes once you are easy with them, you are likely to be easy with otters. They are not married to you but are able to have sex with you, it means those who are not married to you can also have sex with you.
Such relationships feel great when couples are together but its dead when they leave each other’s presence. The only time they want to see each other is when they miss each other or feel like having sex. What such a relationship shares is only sex. When you take sex out of it, what is left is heartache.
If you find yourself in such a relationship, one thing you should be aware of is that, each time your partner meets someone who can give them sex, you are no longer important to them. What they feel for you died instantly.
Sex is cheap, love is priceless, sex is sold, love cannot be bought. If they are with you because of sex then there is nothing special about you. What it means is that you are cheap and can be bought.
, “You are God’s people, so don’t let it be said that any of you are immoral or indecent or greedy” – Ephesians 5:3 (CEV).
