When you are single and looking for someone to settle down with, someone to accept you for who you are, someone to love and be loved, the thought of such a person can keep you awake all night. You are wondering if that person exists and why it has taken so long to meet them.
And when you meet someone you seem to like or admire, someone who is single, you end up thinking he or she might be the person you have been looking for all this while. You end up thinking about them, dreaming about them, checking up on them, talking to them.
As you continue to do that, you start seeing the person as part of you, someone you are in love with, you start catching feelings for them. Then it dawns at you, they are not into you as you are. You are always calling to check on them, but they are not. You look forward to seeing them, but they don’t. And when other people come your way, you find it difficult to let go of this special person you wish you ended up with, and wish they had developed the same feeling for you.
You end up hurt when you find out this person has someone else they are in love with or already have a relationship. But you still find it difficult to accept the reality. You pray and hope for a miracle, so you could end up together. It is like waiting at the airport for a ship to arrive. With this attitude you also drive away people who genuinely want to be with you. Your mind, attention is preoccupied so you have no eye, attention or attraction for someone else.
Getting over such a person can be challenging. We have lots of singles, especially ladies who are in love with someone they might not end up with. Someone who is already taken and gone. Someone who is not theirs.
If you are in such a situation, you need to know you are not only wasting your time, but also your life, for time is life. You are also responsible for how you feel. You are responsible for the hurt, the sleepless nights. You need to let go of this person in your mind. Not by avoiding them, or not calling or chatting. Not by unfriending or blocking them on phone or social media. Not by leaving your school, church, vicinity because they live around.
You let go by accepting the fact that such a person is not your partner and won’t be. You accept he or she is not yours and your partner is someone out there. Acceptance will change how you feel about them. That is how you get over them and give others opportunity. Never let the person who never loved you prevent you from one who loves you. Stop following your feelings and take control of your mind.
In conclusion, “Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.” – Proverbs 4:23 (GNT).
