Number one determinant of the success or failure of marriage is the character make-up of the parties in the marriage. People marry because of beauty, but enjoy or endure the marriage because of character.
Nobody has the gift of good character, neither is anyone unlucky to have bad character. Character is not a gift, but a choice. If you want to have a blissful marriage, cultivate good Character. Build good, strong character.
INTRODUCTION
One important area of a man’s life that requires serious attention is his character. Your character will either make or break your marriage. Your character will either promote or demote you. This is why good character can never be substituted for anything. Character determines how our marriage turns out to be.
Work on your character!
CHARACTER: THE MAKER OR SPOILER OF MARRIAGE
The biggest problem of marriage is that people fail to deal with their character before going into marriage.
Marriage can only be good if the people in the marriage have good character. Deal with your character and your marriage will be beautified!
CHARACTER PICK UP!!!
How do people pick up their character?
1. FAMILY PICK UP: The family has the biggest influence on one’s character. There is that possibility for a lady raised in a violent family to become cantankerous. However, there are few exemptions.
There are families where everyone is a pathological liar.
2. ASSOCIATIONAL pick up: One of the greatest self-deception is to think that you can relate with bad people and not be affected. You are as good as your friends no matter how you see it.
The easiest way to be foolish is make friends with fools.
Marriages have been destroyed by bad associations. Be careful!
3. AIRWAVES PICK UP: There are two types of airwave pick ups:
a. Electronic airwaves: Social media has influenced many people negatively.
b. Demonic airwaves: Sometimes, you can see heavy wave of immorality when you step into a particular community.
N/B: Create your own environment so that your character can be under check.
4. PERSONAL DECISION: You can decide to be good or bad. Decide to be a virtuous wife to your husband and vice versa. Decide to be a great blessing to your spouse. Don’t make your spouse feel that it was a great mistake to marry you.
I decided to be a great blessing to my wife and children. Make the same decision please!
Don’t follow chemistry, follow character.
Chemistry is as a result of chemical reaction while character is as a result of destiny position.
“He is so charming” The difference between CHARMING and HARMING is letter C which stands for CHARACTER. Remove C – CHARACTER, he is HARMING. Without character, he will harm you.
CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT
How to develop a positive character:
1. DETERMINE TO BE DIFFERENT: Until you are different, you can make a difference.
2. IDENTIFY AND FIGHT YOUR FAMILY “DEVILS”: What you can’t identify, you can’t rectify. The bad character associated with your family, you MUST fight it. Don’t say, “That is how we are in my family”. You can change!
3. FIGHT AGAINST IGNORANCE IN YOUR LIFE: I say this very often: “Ignorance is not a demon; you cannot cast it out. Deliverance from ignorance is by knowledge. Read great books in the area of your challenge.
4. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH GREAT FRIENDS: Friendship is not for management; it is for development. Choose your friends carefully. “Iron sharpeneth iron”. Make friends with people with good character.
5. GET A COMPETENT MENTOR: There is no star without a coach. If you try to become a star without a coach, you will end up in reproach. Get a competent mentor, so that you don’t end up in the hand of a tormentor.
A mentor helps you to minimize your errors in life.