One inspector of police was talking about the numerous murder( death) cases in the system, and he attributed most of them to the high levels of insecurity in marriages and relationships. Why will your partner feel insecure around you?
Now let’s see some deep and major ways one can deal with insecurity when it comes to the union between man and woman.
1) BE TRANSPARENT :
Don’t give a portion of the truth about something and leave the rest hidden or in lies. This can really build insecurity in your partner when he or she finds out the whole truth. This kills trust.
2) LET YOUR “YES” be “YES” and your “NO” be “NO”.
Don’t make a lie sound like the truth. Be straight with your partner. Don’t say “YES” today and “NO” tomorrow on the same issue. Just be disciplined here.
3) BE CAREFUL HOW YOU ADDRESS ISSUES;
At times it may be a question or you partners may be discussing an issue; don’t talk in a way that your partner may spot that you have negative intentions. How you address people issues or the suggestions you give, is how your partner may address you. Be positive when speaking.
4) DON’T JUDGE PEOPLE BY WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN EXPOSED TO;
My dear, stop living in your past. If someone did something bad to you, it doesn’t mean everyone is like that or has such intentions. Every relationship or marriage is a new world on its own. Learn lessons from your past, but don’t use them to judge people.
5) LEARN TO LET GO BECAUSE PEOPLE CAN CHANGE FOR THE BETTER;
If you spotted a bad behavior from your partner which limited the trust you have for them but they later apologized and promised they’ve changed, do have hope in them as long as you don’t keep seeing them doing those wrongs. Let go of the past wrongs.
6) KEEP NONE IMPORTANT ISSUES TO YOURSELF ;
Not every issue you must share with your partner; you may think that sharing certain issues may let them trust you the more, but not everyone is mature enough to take that. eg. men who are proposing to you, the number of sex partners you had in your past, etc. Only share things that can affect the union negatively in the near future.
7) DON’T THINK THAT THE BAD LIFESTYLE YOU ARE INTO , YOUR PARTNER IS DOING SAME;
If you’re feeling guilty or suspicious about your hidden bad behaviors, don’t think your partner is doing the same. Carry your own burden.
8) UNDERSTAND THAT WE HAVE INDIVIDUAL DIFFERENCES;
We aren’t the same, and we can’t be the same, which is why our finger prints aren’t equal. So stop thinking that people from the same tribe , house, religion ,the same names, day and month born are equal.
9) DON’T JUDGE THE BOOK BY ITS COVER; It’s not how people may appear ;that may be how their character is. The appearance may at times count or deceitful. Some wolf do have sheep’s skins covering them.
10) STOP PLAYING WITH IMPORTANT ISSUES; At times in your mind, you may think that; you are making fun or jokes about something, but some partners take these things in heart. If it’s all about jokes, make it known and vivid.
11) STOP KEEPING CERTAIN TRUTHS THAT YOUR PARTNER IS SUPPOSED TO KNOW FROM THEM:
Stop hiding vital issues from your partner. Don’t let the right time they should know pass. Earlier the better. Don’t kill the trust they do have for you.
12) STOP GIVING ROOMS FOR INSECURITY;
If your partner trusts you that much, maintain and protect it. Don’t take the trust they do have in you for granted and lose everything. Check how you communicate and associate yourself with the opposite sex. better still, how you do things.
13) STOP SUSPECTING WITHOUT SOLID PROVES OR EVIDENCES Suspicion is not solid until it comes with evidence. Don’t base your judgment on that. And never judge your partner if you don’t have any solid proof.
14) NOT EVERYTHING YOU HEAR ABOUT YOUR PARTNER IS TRUE;
Understand that not everyone wants your marriage or relationship to last. There are many hidden enemies. People can create, edit videos and pictures, and create content to sabotage or blackmail your partner. Always get the truth of every matter before you act.
