Let me make this easier for you sisters, many of you don’t know what to look out for in a man before jumping into a relationship with him.
You don’t know the areas of a man’s life that requires evaluation, and the parameters that needs to be measured in other to be well convinced that he is best suited for you, and you for him.
For some of you, it is all about date nights and glamour in the initial stage of getting to know each other, after three weekends of eating pizza together at Dominos you’ll remove your wig and fall in love fantastically.
So even before praying to God about him, isolate your feelings and do a safe assessment to be sure you are not lifting the wrong man to God in prayer.
Carry out the following assessment test on him during the friendship stage of getting to know each other.
Keep it in front of the back of your mind.
Ensure that you don’t make up excuses to cover up for the lack of these qualities in him, these non-negotiable standards of a ready husband.
Just follow what the Bible says about the qualities of a good husband;
1) Is he born again, a believer?
2) Loves the Lord? Loves you?
3) Does he have a relationship with God as far as you have observed?
4) Is he teachable?
5) Does he have significant figures in his life that he honours and regards?
6) Have regard for your family and have accepted your parents?
7) Does he have the fruits of the Spirit? If not all but to a good extent?
8) Is he hardworking? Does he have future plans and goals?
9) Is he financially comfortable? If not yet but is he productive?
10) Does he take care of you in his own little capacity?
11) Does he regard your opinion? Does he even ask for your ideas and inputs?
12) Is he a giver?
13) What’s his relationship with other significant friendships in his life?
14) How rich are his friends circle or block of influence?
15) Does he have an authority over him that he respects? His parents don’t count as they are his natural guardians.
16) Are there addictions he is dealing with or irregular character issues that you cannot subscribe to?
17) Is he interested in your own happiness and helping you chase your own goals?
18) Does your long term plan fit into his or even slightly relative?
19) Lastly, does he have common sense?
20) Does he pursue communication?
These are some very important questions to ask yourself and confirm within the confines of your friendship before you get on that ship.
Always remember, the correct answers to these questions are not yes or no, they are answered through his actions.
