1) MARRYING THE WRONG WOMAN
When a man rushes into marrying a woman, he lands himself trouble. It is so difficult to take pride in a home with a woman you do not truly love. If you two started on the wrong footing and wrong motives, make things right. Learn to love, if you are having trouble, seek counselling. Be honest
2) DOING A JOB THAT ONE HATES
You shouldn’t grow old and retire doing a job that you hate. We spend the most of our time at work, so do something you love. If you don’t like your job, plan your exit strategy to work that will bring you fulfilment
3) PENT UP EMOTIONS
This is what causes so many men to self-destruct and even contemplate or attempt suicide. When a man has no idea of how to deal with his emotions, he can easily explode. It starts with accepting that you have emotions as a man, allow yourself to feel, and express your emotions. Learn to talk to someone, but above all, learn to talk to yourself
4) SEXUAL BLUNDERS
Orgasms can be thrilling, but when a man pursues them in the wrong woman/s, after the high, it eats him up inside. Most men who cheat or who play around with women pretend to be tough on the outside even when they get caught, but inside it unsettles them. Pursue sexual responsibility, and you will be at peace
5) FORCING ONESELF INTO BUSINESS
Not everyone is meant to be an entrepreneur. Don’t jump into business hoping to cash in like your peers. If you don’t have the passion and business acumen, you will burn yourself and your cash. Maybe you are best suited to playing a role in building a collective vision in employment
6) HAVING AN UNAPPRECIATIVE AND DEMANDING WOMAN
When you have a materialistic woman who demands things from you and who barely notices any good you do, you’ll feel deflated. Avoid such a woman. If you are already married to such, correct her with grace and love, request to be more appreciative, and value other things in life than the material
7) TAKING UP UNNECESSARY LOANS
Train yourself to say NO to borrowing. Protect yourself from sinking into a culture of taking up loans to pay other loans. Learn to live within your means. Take loans only when necessary, and when you know, you can pay back as you strive towards surplus. Shake off the shackles of debt
8) DOING THINGS THAT BRING ABOUT GUILT
Any habit that you engage in that brings you temporary pleasure, then lasting guilt will stress you. Each time you do it, you will feel you are making one step forward, then two steps back. Overcome this habit. You can not be battling this year after year
9) UNPREPAREDNESS FOR FATHERHOOD
Be active in family planning. Don’t let it be the woman’s responsibility only. Don’t be surprised to be a father, psychologically, socially, financially, emotionally, and spiritually prepared to be a father. If you are already a father, rise to the occasion, man up
10) SOCIETAL PRESSURE
Society tends to be heartless to men and will give you deliverables that if you don’t meet, society will make you feel less of a man. Don’t depend on society to define you. Define yourself. Be your own man.
