1) PHONES ;
In fact phones are helping us in many ways but they take us far from the one who is closer to us.
Sadly, the wrong usage of phones is collapsing many marriages today . It is so sad that this material thing is using us to destroy our homes instead of us using it to build our homes .
So take this advice;
If you’re married, your phone too is married,so make sure what ever your doing on it proves that you are married. Don’t be married while you’re acting single on your phone.
If you know how to use your phone well hardly it will destroy or collapse your home. Or even bring misunderstanding between your partners.
If you know someone is a threat to your marriage on your phone; this is why we have the “BLOCK OPTION” there.
Whatever you are typing , sending in any format ( video, pictures ,text , emojis), always remind yourself that you are married. So, it should be in accordance with your marital status.
2) SEX
Infact sex is breaking many marriages today and not because partners do not have sex but the difference in experiences is causing the problems.
Exposures to many sexual partners are not making many people happy when it comes to their sex life with their married partners.
The ex was doing it for 5 hours and 3 rounds.Now the husband is 10 minutes 1round.
So now the pressure is on the one who is inexperienced. They need to take medications ,teas, etc . So that they come to the same level of the one whose level is high.
4) FAMILY ( IN-LAWS) ;
Bible says a man will leave his parents and unite with wife and they shall become one flesh.
In fact, some haven’t left yet, but they are married.
They can’t plan with their own partners, and even if they do, they need approval from their family or parents.
And this has created a path way for in-laws to enter couples bed rooms and even know their secret plans.
Is not bad to seek ideas from the old, but they telling you or controlling everything in your marriage indicates that you missed everything.
5) RELAXING AFTER MARRIAGE
It seems some people will be doing better during the relationship and the courtship stage, but immediately after the marriage, they start relaxing.
Forgetting that the marriage itself is the main work . This is the time to cook better , serve better , love deeper , respect more ,protect your man or woman, etc…
After marriage, they stop looking good , dress, check their diet ,work out ,bath ,personal hygiene, many more, etc…
So within some few years and months they stop looking good and attractive . And this will start pushing their partners to the world to cheat …
If you have been able to pass the relationship exam, don’t fail in your marriage.
6) FAMILIARITY
Immediately, shyness leaves the marriage familiarity sets in, but many partners do not know how to manage it, which later leads to divorce.
After seeing your partners nakedness, dirty boxers and parties , seeing the same face and body every day, their weaknesses and strength, their capabilities and living with them for some time etc… you can easily forget that they are still your spouse.
Some start messing up , disrespecting them , fighting them , insulting them, abusing them , cheating, etc.. resulting in many issues.
So my dear don’t forget this . No matter the years you couples stay together; this doesn’t change their position in your life . So don’t switch from wife or husband to something else.
This is breaking and destroying many homes.
Respect your wife’s office as your queen
Respect your husbands office as your king.
Till death depart you people.
7) Exes
To delete or to cross out. But some are still holding on to these formal partners, which later, when they are caught it leads to divorce.
Even because of these exes, many are losing marriage opportunities.
But the truth about life is that if you don’t stop clinging to your past ,you can’t focus on the future.
If your marriage can stand and be on its grounds, have nothing, I mean nothing to do with exes.
Forget about retaliation ,forget about what you have lost during your time with because the marriage can give you more.
Giver everything to life and karma .
And we have some who can’t even stop talking about them . It seems they married the wrong person . My dear, open your eyes .
8) Financial issues ( money ,cash,kudi)
Money is the problem, and money is the solution.
Money matters are breaking many homes today. So let’s plan well before we marry. And also in the marriage, let’s do things right. At times, some are making enough cash, but behaviours like drinkeness, womanizing, mismanagement, etc.. are milking them up.
Love can’t pay bills,put food on the table , buy clothes,pay rent , school fees etc ..
This is why it is important to get a partner who is working and also have multiple streams of income.
When the cash is flowing, the love grows so well.
9) GETTING MARRIED OR GLUED TO YOUR WORK
I keep on saying this , you should create some balance between your marriage and your work . Because the more you give attention to one, the other will be going down.
Don’t marry your work and leave your partner all alone .
Some won’t take leave , break and even holidays or weekends they won’t even go home . They are always busy. Creating good and sweet excuses to defend themselves. This will give the devil the chance to ruin your home .
Get time for your family (kids and partner ) . They are the reason you are suffering. What if one day u come and they are no more what will you gain.
Let’s your kids feel fatherhood and motherhood. Bra and sister make time because there is no other time again.
Are you a minister of God ? Create than balance
10) ONE SIDED MARRIAGE;
This, too, is collapsing many marriages today. Seems this type of marriage is one man’s contract. He or she is doing everything in there. And when they can’t take it anymore, they leave the marriage.
My dear marriage involves two people but not one person. If your partner is the one doing the A to Z in the marriage, then be watchful.
There is much into marriage, mostly when kids are involved .
Marriage is a teamwork Nana.
11) SELFISHNESS
This is also collapsing many marriages today. When a partner wants everything for himself or herself in the marriage.
Everything should be him or her. They will never think about the other partner. Their interest is what they will always gain.
They make the other partner less important in the marriage.And it pushes many to go out and look for where they are accepted and feel valued .
Even what is for their partners, they will still take it in addition to what they have .
12) THREAT’S , ABUSIVENESS, BEATINGS , SLAPS ETC..
Hmm. In fact, this is collapsing marriage s in our era.
Some partners can beat the other partner until he or she is hospitalized…
Some dirty insults and co …
And others threats about killing them .
How many people can stay in such marriage?
Since the partner can’t stand all these harassment she will leave the marriage for you .
Marriage is not a war zone. If you think what your partner is doing is irritating you , go out and sit somewhere till everything is calm.
Some could hold guns, knife ,belts , and sharp objects on their partners.. Sister / Brother …
Where is the love you started with?
13) WHEN A SENSITIVE OR VITAL SECRETIVE COMES AT THE WRONG TIME
I always advise people that if you have any hidden sickness, issue, etc.. that you know can collapse or affect your marriage negatively let your partner know it earlier. Or during the relationship or courtship stage.
Some do think that they will say it after the marriage because that time their partners can’t leave them . But that is immaturity.
Even if they don’t leave, do you think the happiness you need in that marriage you will get it from them. You just piss them off.
And most walk out of these marriages every day because of these things.
Some are scared to say it because they think their partners will leave them, but my dear, do you think they will stay after seeing it themselves.
Say it now. Someone who loves you will accept it or help you solve it if possible.
14) COMMUNICATION AND COMMITMENT PROBLEMS;
These are really leading many marriages into divorces.
Partners don’t talk to each other,plan together, or reason together.
Sadly, they are nice to outsiders. They can talk and laugh with outsiders, but they are careless about their partners. If he or she is a preacher , he can tell his members to practice this and that, yet if you go to his house ; he practice none of them.
They can be on the phone for hours, creating jokes for outsiders and building more happiness with them, but can’t talk with their partners for even 2 minutes.
They are always fault finders . Always complaining and arguing with their partners. Putting the blame on the other partner for doing this and that.
They don’t put any effort into the marriage. Everything about marriage is not their concern. Whether the kids are sick , wife is sick , school fees, etc.. they careless about it .
Such marriage it life span, is short.
Because one can’t take it any, he or she will walk out of it.
15) MARRYING EARLY ;
Though there is nothing wrong when one marries early but it’s strange outcomes trigger me to talk about it .
Because such people don’t prepare enough or mature enough before entering it . So they will end up messing up in there always, which may later lead to divorce.
They don’t know how to handle a man ,woman , issues,home ,money, children , visitors, etc..
They don’t even know how to talk ,when to talk, and what to say .
So most of the marriages do not last .
16) DECEPTION AND FAILING PROMISES ;
We have some partners who will lie to the other in a way that they should expect more after marriage.Yes, they should expect heaven because they have stored more for that.
Even some will say I have this and that . This is how our marriage will be, etc . I will give you this and that after marriage…
So they will build a high taste in these partners, but after marriage, when these partners are expirencing the opposite, they exit .
Even we have some who will dress with these fake booty under wears and co . After marriage, if the thing is not like that, see the harm you have caused.
Bra look real . If your mattress is on the floor, let her know . Live that normal life instead of faking so that you don’t suffer in the marriage .
Sister, be real. Let’s him see the real you and what u have . Stop faking, too
Be real and stop faking because marriage will expose you .
17) MARRYING WITH THE IDEA OF CHANGING THE FELLOW ;
Many will see all the red flags, yet they will ignore them. Thinking that they will change that partner of theirs after marriage.
When things get out of hand in the marriage, they leave or divorce them .
My dear is only God who can change someone….
Life lessons and situations can also make someone change..
Also, when the person wants to change….
So you have a big task if you want to change someone using your strengths and abilities. How will you change someone who sees what he or she is doing to be right or good . And furthermore defend it. The person may even end up changing you or initiating you into the bad things he or she is doing.
Is only God who can help someone to change. He is having the kings heart in his hands. SoConsultt him …
18) UNNECESSARY COMPARISONS AND WRONG ADVISES
People can walk away from their marriage because they see heaven elsewhere . They are in hell of fire.
Look at this person and that person marriage, husband,wife, and co.
They only look at the bright side of people marriages and compare it to the darker side of theirs . If they can’t take it anymore, they leave .
Forgetting that those who look bright in theirs just passed that stage or are hiding their flaws from the public domain.
Sadly, people want to use the same method others are using in theirs . Forgetting that they may be in different stages altogether.
So they will start imitating others, and because their do not have such strength in theirs,they will collapse it .
My dear, know your marriage, know the level you are , know the partner you have,know the strength of your marriage, and know how to do things.
19) MOST PARTNERS DO NOT BUILD A STRONG RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AFTER MARRIAGE;
In fact, when partners are planning to marrying they are so serious about the things of God with the notion that nothing destroys their program or the event. Some even go to the mountains to pray and fast .
After the marriage ceremony, they stop doing these things. They don’t use to pray again, etc . Which gives the devil a chance to destroy the marriage.
The devil will use a small issue and then make you couples cause separation.
So after the marriage ceremony increases the prayers because the devil is still working.
20) LUCK OF INTIMACY, LOVE ,CARE , RESPECT ATTENTION,TRUSTUNFORGIVENESS;
If these are absent in the marriage , it can easily collapse.
These are reasons many marriages are collapsing.
Seems partners start giving at the beginning of the marriage, but they begin to withdraw from them as they are moving forward.
But these these are needed every day and every moment.
21) SMOKING, DRUNKENNESS, WOMANIZING,MANIZING ETC
Seems some pick certain attitudes and behaviours during the marriage journey.
After several warnings, if the other partner can’t do it anymore, they leave the marriage.
Suprisely, they weren’t like that when the marriage began, but they picked that along the way .
This also is destroying many marriages….
