(𝑰𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒆𝒏𝒋𝒐𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒂 𝒔𝒖𝒄𝒄𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒂𝒈𝒆, 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔)
People are getting married for different reasons sex, children, money, status, beauty, pressure, age etc. These things are not wrong by themselves, it’s just a matter of priority.
According to design, the primary purpose of marriage is companionship. To have someone to share your life and moments with before any other thing. Adam was alone so God had to make a companion for him.
How many people are getting married for this very reason? Just a few. Some are getting married because they want children and when children are not forthcoming, in most cases, that’s the end of the marriage.
𝑨𝒔𝒊𝒅𝒆 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚 𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈, 𝒊𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒆𝒏𝒋𝒐𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒑𝒂𝒏𝒚 𝒐𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒏𝒆𝒓, 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒐𝒏(𝒔) 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒈𝒆𝒕𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒅 𝒊𝒔 𝒘𝒓𝒐𝒏𝒈.
Do you know that the reasons why people are getting married are responsible for the failure of a lot of marriages?
Let me show you the impact your reason for getting married will have on your marriage…
𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒈𝒆𝒕𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒅 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒅𝒆𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒂𝒄𝒉 𝒕𝒐 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒂𝒈𝒆
How you approach your marriage will be on the basis of why you get married. It can’t be otherwise. The Bible says, “For as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”(Prov. 23:7 KJV)
If you get married because of children, sex, money etc., these things will be a great deal and a front burner in your marriage and when you are not getting it, problem will ensue.
𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒈𝒆𝒕𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒅𝒆𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒔𝒑𝒐𝒖𝒔𝒆
How you treat your spouse will also be on the basis of why you marry. How your spouse will treat you in marriage will be on the basis of why he or she gets married to you. You better ask for their reason for wanting to get married to you.
A lot of women got married because of money and when money finished, love finished, marriage finished and even the man finished too.
𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒈𝒆𝒕𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒅 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒅𝒆𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒈𝒆𝒗𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒐𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒂𝒈𝒆..
How long your marriage will last is on the basis of why you get married. Why people get married is one of the reasons why some marriages are succeeding while some are failing. Motive makes the difference.
The Bible says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.” (Prov. 13:12 NIV) When someone gets married because of children and the children are delayed or didn’t come, it brings discouragement and disappointment.
As you know, a lot of people quit when they are discouraged or disappointed. The continuation of such marriage will come under threat. A lot of women have been disgracefully sent packing because they have no children. So how long your marriage lasts, to a large extent, is at the mercy of why you get married.
𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒈𝒆𝒕𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒅 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒅𝒆𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒒𝒖𝒂𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒐𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒂𝒈𝒆..
How well your marriage will fair, to a reasonable extent, is a function of your reason for getting married.
Whether your marriage will be a godly one, romantic, healthy, happy and successful or bitter, frustrating, annoying, draining and killing is the handiwork of your reason for getting married, to an extent.
The atmosphere, the eura, and the serenity of your marriage are all the function of why you get married. You can’t separate the two.
𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒈𝒆𝒕𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒅 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒅𝒆𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒂𝒈𝒆.
Your experience in marriage is a function of your reason for getting married. Your reason for getting married will largely determine whether you enjoy or endure marriage.
You can’t even begin to imagine what a lot of women and men are experiencing in the hands of their partners because of one reason or another, emotional and verbal abuse, rejection, abandonment, harsh treatment, insults, disrespect, physical violence etc.
𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐑𝐄𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄…
You don’t need a wife because your clothes are dirty. What happens to your hands? What about drycleaners? What about washing machines? A wife is not a washing machine.
You don’t need a wife because you cannot cook. You can learn how to cook. The best chef in the world is a man! Did you hear that? How about eating out or ordering for your meal? A wife is more than a cook.
You don’t need a wife to give you a son so that your lineage can continue. It is your impact that determines whether you’re forgotten or remembered. Did our Lord Jesus have a son? What about Paul? Even Peter that married and had children, have you heard the name of any of his sons? A wife is not a baby factory.
You don’t need a wife because you want to have sex as you want. After sex and multiple orgasms, what next? A wife is not a sex machine. A wife is more.
You don’t need a husband because you want to escape from poverty. A husband is not a poverty alleviation and eradication scheme.
You don’t need a husband because you want a man that will take over the responsibilities of your family, send your siblings to school, start up your brothers in business. A husband is not a philanthropist.
You don’t need a husband because you want a man that will take care of you. You are an adult who should be able to take care of herself. Are you saying that if the man isn’t there you won’t be able to take care of yourself? If the money is not there, will you enjoy the company of the man? Will he not be irritating to you?
𝐒𝐎…
If the reason you’re getting married is to have a wife that will be washing your dirty clothes, cook meals for you, give you sex and children, you’re actually looking for a house help and baby mama not a wife. A wife is more than just washing your clothes and cooking for you.
If the reason you are getting married is to have a husband that will eradicate and alleviate you from poverty, send your siblings to school and take over your family responsibilities, Aunty na philanthropist you are looking for.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying your wife or husband shouldn’t do any of these for you, but if these are your primary objectives for getting a wife or a husband, you are totally wrong.
In conclusion…
Don’t get married for the wrong reasons. You can’t marry for the wrong reasons and expect your marriage to turn out right. The foundation is faulty.
❞𝑺𝒆𝒆𝒌 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒂 𝒘𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒐𝒓 𝒉𝒖𝒔𝒃𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒆𝒏𝒋𝒐𝒚 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒐𝒓 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒑𝒂𝒏𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔𝒉𝒊𝒑 𝒂𝒔𝒊𝒅𝒆 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚 𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈. 𝑺𝒆𝒆𝒌 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒂 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒏𝒆𝒓 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒕𝒐𝒐, 𝒂 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒏𝒆𝒓 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒔𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔 𝒊𝒏 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒎𝒐𝒏, 𝒂 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒏𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒂𝒈𝒓𝒆𝒆𝒔 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒚𝒐𝒖, 𝒔𝒖𝒊𝒕𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒏𝒆𝒓 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒔𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉. 𝑻𝒉𝒆𝒏, 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅𝒚 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒂 𝒔𝒖𝒄𝒄𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒎𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒊𝒂𝒈𝒆.❞
Thanks for reading.
I’m committed to helping you to marry right, to treat your relationship and marriage issues and to build a happy home.
