People need to understand that, no matter how rich, kind, generous they are, they cannot buy the love of someone else. They can employ someone, sign a contract with them or go into an agreement to stay together, but they cannot force them to love them, they cannot buy their love with money or assistance. Doing that is equal to buying their heart.
You can pay for their knowledge but not their heart or feelings. Many people have made this mistake and have paid dearly for it. They saw someone in a condition, helped them out and as a result want them to love them by proposing love to them, being in a relationship asking for their hands in marriage.
You met her without accommodation so you think providing that for her is equal to getting them to love you. If you think like that then you are about to make a huge mistake in your life. He is jobless so you think giving him money or helping him get a job is equal to getting them to love you. That is not true.
If you think he is broken-hearted so being there for him in times like that is enough to make him fall in love with you, you are wrong. If you think because she was impregnated and abandoned, and that trying to be a caretaker is enough to get her to love you, please think twice.
It is a good thing to help people, to make a real difference in their lives, but there is a problem when you want them to reciprocate your help by falling in love with you. You need to know there is a difference between being grateful and being in love; they are not the same.
Someone can be grateful for the assistance you gave them but that does not mean they love you or its enough to fall in love with you. Understand that people’s hearts are not yours and you cannot have control over it because you helped them.
Many relationships and marriages these days are borne out of gratitude instead of love. That is why someone was abandoned by the Ex, you helped to get back on their feet, only for them to go back to the same Ex or still habour feelings or are remain in love with the Ex and not you.
Forcing such a person to marry you is just like sitting on a time bomb. They can always fall in love with someone else and not you. That is why you don’t help people with the motive of winning their heart. Help them because you want to help and have no motive attached to it. And again, do it because the person wants you to help them.
There are people spotting others with needs and finding a way to get into their lives so they can meet that and later force them into a relationship or marriage. For your own sake, let someone marry you because they love you. Let someone be in a relationship with you because they love you and want to be in a relationship with you, not out of gratitude or because you help them.
They might be forever grateful to you for helping them but not in love with you. They might not respond to you the way you responded to them or wanted them to respond to you. And that hurt so much. So don’t hurt yourself by asking someone to marry you because you helped them or can help them. You don’t need to do that to yourself.
In conclusion, “Many waters cannot quench the flame of love, neither can the floods drown it. If a man tried to buy it with everything he owned, he couldn’t do it.” – Song of Solomon 8:7 (TLB).
