Often times, I have heard most of my clients say, ‘He kept beating me and can’t even apologize for being inhuman to me’, ”He hardly say sorry”, ”She insults me without a conscience”, ”She threatens to leave me if I persist that she changes”.
A young handsome guy with good life almost committed suicide because the only woman he loves kept abusing him. She was used to sleeping with other men and threaten to leave him if he wasn’t comfortable with it. He asked me, ‘why is God unfair to me”? I had to help him see who was truly to be blamed. He was the one. God has no hand in it. By the time he realized his responsibility in how he was treated, he stood up and let her go. When she realized that he has moved on and doesn’t care who sleeps with her, she crawled back and was going around asking people to help her beg him back into her life.
People won’t treat you the way you ain’t. The only door people come into your life is the one you left opened. If you think that enduring abuse is love, you will get more of it and your abuser won’t have any reason to stop half way
You are not yet married to a man but 80 percent of your belongings are in his house. What you have succeeded to do is telling him practically that you have too much space for him. Moving into a man’s house does not build him into you. It makes him start feeling bored of you on time.
A reasonable woman knows her boundaries and holds them very sensitively. A lot of men have angrily come to me arguing why their girl friends kept refusing to come over to their places. I usually ask, ‘Did you promise to marry her?” and if their answers are ‘Yes’, I will always say to them, ‘She is wise. She will own your house only after she becomes your wife. Marry her and you have her every time in your house. There is no need to be angry if you truly want her for a wife. We all stand patiently and wait for goods we paid for to arrive and so, we shall be patient on this one”
Nobody takes you for granted when you have not taken yourself for granted. We all have to be careful when we become emotional about relationship. Emotion makes us let down our values
