Sometime ago, I read a very touching story of one lady like that. She said that, ever since she is grown up, no man has ever approached her to toast her talk less of proposing marriage to her. She was crying profusely.
I can’t really tell the cause of that. And this lady was looking okay from all indications. Probably, she is under a curse or sort of, I’m not sure. That’s not my aim for sharing the story. Though, I feel for her.
The point I want to make with the story is that, as humans, we are relational beings. We are created for relationships. We’re wired and configured for relationships. Firstly, relationship with God and secondly relationship with our fellow humans.
We find fulfillment and acceptance in relationships. When people reject us and refuse to relate with us, most often than not, it’s not a palatable experience. Just like the lady in the story. She is feeling lonely and rejected because no man comes her way.
I have established the fact that, we’re relational beings and as such there’s nothing, absolutely, wrong with seeking to be in a relationship with someone. We’re wired and configured that way.
But then, for us not to make a sheepwreck of our relationships, we need to make sure that we are entering into a relationship for the right reasons hence the need to ask yourself these 2 important questions.
1) Why Do I Want To Enter Into A Relationship?
It’s important for you to question your motive for wanting to enter into a relationship with the member of the opposite sex.
People enter into a relationship for various kind of reasons.
✔️ Some people enter relationship for sex. They just want to be having free sex, that’s why they venture into a relationship.
✔️ Some people enter relationship to meet their financial needs. They have bills to pay which they cannot afford to pay so they enter relationship to meet their needs.
✔️ Some people enter relationship because of peer pressure. Their friends are in a relationship so they must be in one too in order to be the odd one or the jew guy.
May I advise you that, if getting married is not your aim for entering a relationship, stay away from relationship and focus on other areas of your life. Everything in life has time. Relationship at the wrong time can affect your life negatively.
Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. (Song of Songs 2:7 NIV)
The only legitimate reason to be in a relationship is to get married not to have sex, meet your needs or because of peer pressure. Again, why do you want to enter a relationship?
2) Am I Prepared For A Relationship?
For you to be successful in a relationship, you need to be prepared spiritually, physically, emotionally, mentally and financially.
✔️ Are you prepared spiritually for a relationship? What’s your relationship with God like? Do you even have a relationship with God? It’s not a wise decision to be seeking relationship with man when your relationship with God is not in place. God first before man or woman.
✔️ How prepared are you emotionally for a relationship? Do you have the emotional maturity to handle the stress and pressure that come with being in a relationship?
✔️ Relationship will task you mentally. It requires wisdom, knowledge and understanding, mental stability for its successful operation, so how prepare are you? Relationship isn’t for those that doesn’t have sense.
✔️ There’s no romance without finance. Let no one deceive you, relationship will task your pocket. Airtime, data sub, gifts, cinema movies, outings, transportation etc., will require money. Its not paper you use to pay for all these things and you can’t say you love someone without spending money on them whether or not they ask you.
So how prepare are you financially for a relationship? Love no be for mouth. Sometimes you need to prove your love.
Again, are you prepared for a relationship? How prepared are you? Think about it.
So, here are the 2 important questions you need to ask yourself before you enter into a relationship.
Thanks for reading
