1. SEX: A Lady was honest with me in one recent counseling session I had, “Sir, I thought if I give him sex, he’ll stay and marry me, now I know I was wrong” Aunty, WAKE UP from your dream!!! SEX DOES NOT keep a Man. he can sleep with you and finish, even get you pregnant and still deny you like Peter denied Jesus.
2. HOUSE CHORES: If you like, sweep his street, turn to dry cleaner. You’ll be running helter skelter like a maid with his house chores ever weekend, Cleaning, sweeping, washing, cooking, just to make him stay and marry you, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it doesn’t actually work like this. Save your self small dignity and Pride.
3. MONEY: Never spend money on a guy with the motive that he’ll marry you BECAUSE of the money you’re spending or “investing” on his head. You buy him a Car, a Phone, Pay his school fees from your savings, pay his Rent and you now believe he won’t misbehave. I wish it was like that.
WHAT MAKES A MAN STAY
HIS LOVE FOR GOD & LOVE/DESIRE FOR YOU: A Man who has this combination, A love for God (Fear of God) first and foremost, then a love and desire for you is a KEEPER. His Love for God will make him not to take advantage of You, not to deceive You, but be faithful and true. His love/desire/value for YOU and your CONTENT will make him stay and Marry you.
If he doesn’t love/want/value you, he will leave eventually. You can’t change his mind with sex. Save your body for your Husband and be a Christian indeed. Before you start trying to keep a Man that can’t be Kept. Check Does he love God? Does he love/want You?