In life.. In this life.. Many people are having complicated relationships which are resulting in breaking and going separate ways. However we are having a situation whereby people are still talking to their Exes.
We would want to look at the following questions that are going to be our guidelines.
1) Is it right?
2) What is the reason to keep on talking to them?
3) Is it OK just to be friends with them?
4) Are there any challenges to be faced?
5) What can we learn from the word of God?
Here are some of the questions that we shall be looking at, for more questions please feel free to share
1) Is it right?
Answer:
Its not right to keep on entertaining your ex, or to keep on talking to your ex. The reason being, you agreed to go separate ways meaning that anything to do with your ex is over and done. If you keep in contact with him, all the memory of your past will keep on echoing in your mind and chances are high of you going back to him, or cheat your new b.f with him.
Where one once walked the road will be easy to track, all that you did with him will eventually come to picture which might disturb your new relationship .
2) What is the reason to keep on talking to them?
The main reason why many still want to talk to their exes is because, they hadn’t let go or accepted that the relationship has ended. This mostly happens to those who have been rejected whilst they were seeing the relationship going to the honeymoon. For you to conquer this you have to accept and let go of that relationship.
3) Is it OK to be friends with your ex?
It is not OK, friendship with your ex will do more harm unlike a friendship taken to a relationship. Remember your ex has got a different experience with any other ordinary friends you might think of, what I can say is, your ex boyfriend is just like Satan banned from heaven. He now knows how good and beautiful you are and regrets what he has lost in his life, do you think he will be happy to another man trying to enter a beautiful heaven that he lost? No he will not take that, so once you make him your friend, know that destruction is on its way.
4) Are there challenges to be faced?
Yes there will be more than enough challenges that you will face. Firstly how will your new boyfriend feel when he finds out that your ex is noe your friend? Let us put it this way, how do you feel when your bae is having his ex as his friend? You see! Things will be complicated.
It it wise to turn your back to your ex for good than to create a trap for yourself.
5) What can we learn from the word of God?
KJV Proverbs 26:11
As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly.
The bible is using a dog as an example for those called fools. It is foolishness to keep on going back to your ex. The reason why you went separate ways is that the relationship was bitter so you vomited, there is no way your vomit will change to be a delicious meal.
Memories you shared with that person will linger around you. The faint memories of your previous relationship will cast the shadow over your current one you should be focusing on. Your bae should feel special like he is the only person you love, but how can your bae experience those feelings when reminded that you’ve already experienced that same love with someone else and you have his contact or you still talking?
If you’re truly ready to commit to a new relationship, then you need to forget about old memories. People like to think that there isn’t any romance left in the old relationship, that they truly are just friends thus totally wrong because at some point you think that you’ve been intimate with this person, you’ve loved him; there was a time when you thought that you’d last forever. You have already experienced a love that you thought would never end, and that past love still exists in your life.
If you are truly ready to invest yourself in your new relationship, if you truly love them, you owe them a clean state – a relationship where your love is unique and irreplaceable and not a love that came after the one you had before.
The experiences you had with this person will stay with you forever in the sub conscious mind so, talking to an ex, keeping number dzake while in a relationship will make matters more worse for you and it will affect your new relationship
The other thing is, going back to check on the dead carcass that you have killed, you will definitely see things that should not be expected to be seen there. Samson once did this, remember when he killed that lion.
KJV Judges 14:8 And after a time he returned to take her, and he turned aside to see the carcase of the lion: and, behold, there was a swarm of bees and honey in the carcase of the lion.
Vs9 And he took thereof in his hands, and went on eating, and came to his father and mother, and he gave them, and they did eat: but he told not them that he had taken the honey out of the carcase of the lion.
There are two things we would like to note here..
1) Turning back to your ex, viewing his status, calling him etc, you will see honey and lose sight of what to focus on. Just imagine viewing his status and you see him standing with a GD6, and you tag him then he ask you out, will you deny when you have seen honey? Definitely you won’t resist that, but you know what, the taste of honey will cease and you will now start facing reality that you are no longer a virgin after he had lured you.
2) Samson knew that if he tell his parents that he found honey in the dead carcase of a lion, they would have not taken it lightly with him. So he chose not to disclose.
Our parents are matured enough to know what is right, if you want them to show you the right path, show them that you are still seeing your ex.
You will find out that many people are being given heartbreak season 2 with their exes. Its easy for your ex to lay on you than your current bae. So be careful.
Do not fool yourself putting on statuses in the name of, I want to show my ex that am nw somewhere with life. You don’t live for anyone, live for God and yourself, posting about your ex will only leave you a desperate hungry fool.
Delete his number, all his pictures and start a new chapter without him. If you keep on checking on him, you will be depressed and this will lock you down in the past.
