Take a good look at yourself and your relationship and ask yourself if that is what you want or not. If the relationship you found yourself in, is not something you want but you are still there, don’t blame anyone. You are there because you want to be there. Stop blaming your partner for you are not a child. You are mature to know what you want.
How do you expect to have what you want if you are not willing to take the needed step? If you don’t make a move, you are always going to remain in the same place. If you don’t go after what you want, you will not have it. life is how you make it. Your input equals to your output, your effort equals to your result.
You are comfortable with the wrong person and claimed you want to be with the right person? Don’t expect to find the right partner it you are afraid of letting go the wrong partner. Don’t expect to be in a right relationship if you are not bold enough to let go the wrong relationship.
Is either you are addicted to hurt or don’t know what you want. Many people are not in love. These people don’t know the meaning of love. If you cannot love your partner the same way you love yourself then it is not love. If you cannot value yourself the same way you value your partner then it is not love.
And if you love yourself as much as you love your partner, value yourself as much as you value your partner then you won’t accept less than you deserve. There are people who are not in love as they portrait, they are rather addicted to the pain of wanting someone they cannot have.
Such person just wants someone without taking into consideration if the person loves then or not. So, they accept all sort of ill treatment from the person because they want to be in the reason with the person at all cost. They are the one always calling, they are the one always showing care and concern.
You don’t sell yourself worth, dignity, respect so cheap just to have a relationship or be with someone and think you will be happy. Your happiness does not depend on such a person as you think. It depends on you. It depends on doing the right thing. You are totally responsible for your relationship. If you don’t like what you find yourself in, take the needed step to come out and go for what you want.
If the relationship is causing you sadness, let go and you will find happiness. Leaving might not be easy, the situation might seem as one of the worst moments of your life but don’t forget learning to handle the worst is how you become the best.
Don’t get into a new relationship if you are still hurt or broken. Seek counselling and guidance service so you don’t repeat the same mistake. Talk to THE MARRIAGE CONSULT LTD. Follow them facebook.com/themarriageconsult. Website: www.themarriageconsult.com. Remember you cannot find love with a broken heart, the same way a bird cannot fly with a broken wing. You need healthy heart to love.
And when you leave the relationship, never forget why such relationship did not made it to the future. Once you have that at the back of your mind, you won’t have the desire of going to recycle the past. You won’t long for the past. You won’t go chasing your Ex.
“When someone does something bad to you, do not do the same thing to him. When someone talks about you, do not talk about him. Instead, pray that good will come to him. You were called to do this so you might receive good things from God” – 1 Peter 3:9 (NLV).
