Hollywood has painted love to be a dream, making it seem like there is someone out there, and when you meet them, you should get a certain kind of feeling that shows you are meant to be.
Although people are in a stable relationship, when it comes to marriage, they are afraid they might end up with the wrong person. The question many singles want an answer to is, how do I know we are meant to be?
A relationship which is meant to be is not built on fantasy or gravitational force. It is the kind of relationship you build. Just as the houses we live in relationships are like that. Just like how birds weave their nest, so is the relationship.
You need a partner who is willing to fight the odds, overcome the obstacles and difficulties to achieve what you both want. You need an open-minded person who knows their needs and will communicate that. Someone who enjoys your similarities and is also curious to learn more about your differences.
Someone with a positive attitude towards your relationship and understands the relationship as a house you are both building to accommodate the two of you. Understand you will go through good and bad moods, you will have arguments, say things out of anger sometimes. You will have your ups and downs.
You will have your misunderstandings but make it a goal to resolve the issues fast and get back to building the relationship. Your love for each other and the relationship should be bigger than anything that threatens to destroy what you are building.
You are truly meant to be when after the misunderstanding, argument, disagreement, bad days, you cannot see yourself without your partner.
A relationship is meant to be one where both parties are willing to give their best to make the relationship work. Someone who believes love is what we make, not how someone makes me feel.
A partner who distances themselves when you have issues, blocks you, calls for a break and shows lack of interest is not someone who is meant to be with. A partner who is not willing to resolve issues or look for professional assistance but insists on a relationship is not someone you are meant to be with.
In conclusion, “And let us not grow weary in doing good, for in due season we shall reap, if we do not give up.” – Galatians 6:9 (MEV).
