I know you love him so much, but please love yourself too.
I know you care so much about that man, but please care about yourself too. Sis, I know you are willing to sacrifice a lot of things for him, but please, when will you ever prioritize yourself?
Haven’t you heard, as it’s written,” You shall love your neighbor, “just as you love” yourself. [Matthew 22:39]. God’s order is that you love you first, before extending the same love to another person.
When i hear of a woman wanting to commit suicide because of love, all i ask is, when is this girl going to love herself first? When will she ever put herself before any man?
Men hurt, Yes, we terribly hurt women, but you have no right to think of terminating the gift that God gave you, “LIFE”, for the sake of a man!
When you go into a relationship, as i always say, please don’t depend on your heart and feelings only. Take your head with you and reason out some of this things, as God leads you.
Sometimes taking a break from a relationship is better than thinking of death, to prove to someone you loved him! After you are gone, he might even pick another woman from your funeral committee, and start life again, so why think of stopping your life, because of a mere mortal man?
Let me ask you, if your man died now, will life not continue for you? Will it stop because your boyfriend is dead? Why place your life and clog all your hopes in a man who will die one day? Hope and trust in God and yourself, before hoping in any man who might not love you in the first place.
Why put so much of your trust and your hopes in a man whom God made from the dust of the earth? When will you put all that hope, trust and confidence in the God who gives us all things to enjoy? Actually, it’s God who has the right man for you.
It’s God, whose gifts when given, never makes us regret.
Whatever is good and perfect, as the bible says, is a gift coming down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens. He never changes or casts a shifting shadow. [James 1:17].
Men can easily change like shifting shadows, but God never does. I mean, loving hard is never bad. Caring too much is not bad, but please, please, spare a part of that love and care for yourself. Do not lose yourself to someone who is not deserving of you. Don’t even think of suicide. Lift your head up and thank God for one door that he has shut. Infarct, some people, after a breakup, always come to look back and thank God that it happened.
If you can’t see the full picture now, it does not mean you will never see it in the days to come. Some breakups are made in heaven for reasons you will understand later. God always breaks for us the details of why he made certain decisions for us, later and not when it happens. The goodness of God will always lead us in the right path. God never disappoints his own people.
This days, we are losing a lot of our young girls because of such deep convictions and love bestowed upon unfaithful men. Many girls are either in jails for drug trafficking, not because they sold drugs, but a boyfriend took advantage of her love, and gave her a bag sealed cocaine, to go before him, and meet him in the airport, as he travels abroad.
Out of love, she believed him and did he said as an expression of love but Loh, it was so late for her to defend herself before security men, yet her man had disappeared.
A girl gave a testimony on radio recently, of how at 17, her man was a thug and who kept guns under her care, yet she never knew he was taking advantage of her love. It took presidential mercy for her to be released, after spending 24 yrs in jail. Just imagine.
If you are a good reader of the papers too, you may have even seen and heard about how our girls are dying in their homes, just because they were just gracious to welcome a man they loved, into their private and sacred places, all in the name of love.
The amazing thing is, some of this girls have no history of this man they are hosting for free. Actually, they have never visited his parents, neither have they met his brothers and sisters, nor paid dowry and about to wed, yet they can host in the name of love, a man who lies to them for months. He eats her food,drinks her tea and stays in her rented house[which she pays rent], and for free.
Whenever such girls think of marriage and ask him why he’s not taking her to his parents for introduction, all he says is “we will make this public later, but for now, let us check if we are compatible, before making that decision, and this girl, hosting someone in her home, believes this kind of compatibility theory so easily!
Why, and why my sisters, why are you letting down the descendants of Eve this much?.
It’s has now been rumored, especially here in Nairobi, that “some men” don’t pay rent anywhere. All they need is to have 3 to 5 girlfriends in different parts of the city, then start taking turns in their homes, for either 3 months or so, then leave pretending to travel upcountry or abroad for few month. For this month he will be away, he tells his girlfriend, my phone might be off, so i maybe calling you when i find time, and that is the trend all over.
This simple lie makes the man exchange phones and move to another suburb, for another 3 month, in another woman’s house, get fed, clothed and housed for free-all in the name of love. Unfortunately, this thing called love has made even our rich and educated girls behave so foolishly as though they never went to school.
Even village girls will ask someone some basic questions before accepting them to visit them, leave alone moving in with them. Why host someone in your house for 3 month, yet you don’t know where he works, you have no records of his relatives nor has he even introduced himself to your dad and mum?
Later, you start enduring pain in the glare of Camera’s, as the police push you and your man around the corridors of justice, having been known as a thug or criminal, for killing another woman or in dealing with drugs.
Police even tag you the name “accomplice”, yet it was love than made you forget to ask the most important questions of life, before you said “yes” to his love on first sight!
Don’t be desperate. Don’t show men you need them more than God. Love yourself first, then Someday, as God wills, someone will love you in return, because he sees your respect for yourself.
Life is all about God. Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. [Matthew 6:33].
All this other things, including men, are just additions that God gives us as a reward for our trust and love for him and ourselves first. Hope you have heard me. God bless you
