It’s not enough to say things like “everything has its own time”, we must actually get to that point where by we live with the consciousness of that reality.
What I’ll be sharing today is powerful enough to recalibrate someone’s steps as regarding relationships, I know so because it happened in my life, I’m not assuming it will work, I know it will work.
The challenge with most people nowadays is misplaced priorities, some of us are doing the right things at the wrong time, what we fail to understand is that timing is key to everything in life, once the timing is wrong, the results will be wrong as well.
God makes all things beautiful in His own time, if it’s not yet the appointed time, you can do whatever it is that you want to do, it won’t work, I’m telling you the truth.
The only reason why some people’s relationships keep failing is simply because they’re dating at the wrong time. It’s true.
I’ve said it again and again, you shouldn’t be building a romantic relationship when you ought to be building your life, and this is simply because you need a life to have a life partner.
I don’t understand what someone at age 22 is doing with over 5 exes, who is chasing you?
I don’t understand why someone will be tired of dating at age 23, like when did you start dating?
At age 25 you’re already saying “all men are scum”, where did you get the time to test all men?
“All ladies are gold diggers” and you’re less than 30, I know it’s not by age, but do you have that kind of gold at your age?
Listen, if you jump you’ll come down, but if you grow you’ll stay up, some of us are just in a hurry to get there, as if that’s not enough, we’re skipping levels in between, it doesn’t work like that.
Instead of taking responsibility for our misplaced priorities in life, we often take the easy route by blaming the other gender for our ignorance, most of us knew next to nothing when we started dating, as if that was not foolish enough, when that first relationship ended as it should, we jumped to the next without healing, on and on, that’s how most of us have been jumping from one relationship to the other without stopping for a second to understand why our relationships keep failing.
I’m not exempting myself from what I’m saying because that was the route I also took, when my third relationship failed, I had to slow down and answer some questions sincerely.
Truth be told, there are very few people who can date for years and end up together in marriage, most people usually break up after some years.
You mustn’t date someone for 5 years before you marry them, plus how many people can date for that long without sleeping together? That’s fornication you know?
You don’t have the license to be sleeping around in the name of a relationship, you know it’s not right, and what’s not right can never be right even if everyone is doing it. It’s not excuse.
I’m not judging, I’m only saying the truth that you also know, we need to understand the times and seasons of out lives if we’re ever going to be in charge and have dominion.
By virtue of where you are currently in life, if you know it will take you up to 5 years to be financially stable instance before you marry, why not focus those years on building your life before starting a relationship at the end?
You’re hustling and prostituting at the same time, that’s not a nice combination, some even worsen their case by having multiple s*x partners, what a sorrowful way to prolong your journey!
If it’s not to fornicate, what will you be doing in a relationship that you can’t do in friendship?
It doesn’t make sense, why date someone for 7 years, only to say you’re not “compatible” at the end.
I’m not a prophet of doom, but most of you guys will just cultivate ladies that men who are ready will harvest as wives, it’s just the simple fact, these ladies don’t have luxury of time to wait for you for 10 years to “blow” as you’re planning to without a blueprint.
Understand the times and seasons of your life, this thing is in levels, if it’s not wickedness how can you engage someone’s daughter for 5 years? And you don’t know when you’ll settle down maritally.
As ladies you need to use the discernment God gave you for free, some of you will know from the beginning of the relationship that it will not last but you’ll still go ahead, you’ll be busy dating when you’re not allowed to date, when you have the time and license to date and marry, you’ll discover that nobody is showing up again to date you, boom, that’s how you become desperate because you’re approaching 30, sometimes let’s tell ourselves the truth.
You can have you cake and eat it, but you can’t eat your cake and have it.
The future belongs to those who take out time to prepare adequately for it, it’s prior proper preparation that prevents poor performance in life.
The shocking thing is that most people don’t have a solid plan for their lives, they’re just living aimlessly as the days come and go, you won’t make progress like that.
I know life happens, but a plan gives you focus and direction, it minimizes distractions and gives you speed in life, although not perfect, it still fulfill it’s purpose in the long run.
“What will be will be”, that’s what most people say, but what will be will never be if you don’t do what you’re supposed to do when you’re supposed to do it, the outcome of your life is not entirely up to God, you have a choice to make, and your choices today will determine where you’ll end up tomorrow.
I need you to understand one thing, don’t force seasons into your life, don’t exit seasons prematurely, learn how to understand the times and seasons of your life, know what you ought to be doing at every point in time, build a life before looking for a life partner, and prepare your way adequately before venturing into relationships.
You can’t be dating in 100 level when you’re planning to have masters before marriage, do the maths by yourself, does it make sense?
Some of you need to take a break from dating to rediscover yourself and set your priorities right, some of you need to slow down and ask yourself why you need a relationship so badly right now.
When it’s the right time, God will make it happen speedily for you. All you just have to do is to discover His plan for your life and walk in alignment.
Marriage is not something you rush into unprepared, if you’re not patient with the process you may even end up as a patient, if you don’t want to be a casualty, please don’t take what I’m saying casually.
Timing is very very important!
I’m just saying you know, it’s just a counsel, and you’re free to do with it as you please.
Marriage is beautiful when you marry correctly, and by correctly I mean when you marry well and timely, because it’s God who makes all things beautiful in His time, His time is always the best time.
