If you are afraid of getting hurt, then don’t go into a relationship. if you are afraid of being disappointed, don’t get yourself in any relationship. No matter how much someone promised you or how much you promised them, you can not have a relationship where you won’t hurt or disappoint each other.
Going into a relationship without hurt is like saying, playing football without an injury. You can not fully know any person because they are continually growing, revolving, changing, etc. You can go into a relationship to work with them.
Anytime the two cannot work together as partners, they are free to part ways. Staying on the fence or edge with the fear you will get hurt when you go into a relationship simply means you are not ready for a relationship. Instead of thinking of getting hurt, think of how to communicate effectively, resolve conflict, and meet each other’s needs.
What you can also do is to put down some boundaries or measures to keep you both safe in the relationship and work to maintain a healthy relationship; Just as in football or any other game, rules are put in place for safety and fairness; Just as any human institution has laws in place.
If the first man and woman couldn’t abide by a simple instruction from God, that should tell you humans are fallible when they are left alone. Getting into a relationship is about working together daily, being in each other’s lives, being there for each other, being each other’s keeper, being each other’s friends, and supporting. Above all, giving each other grace and never letting go.
You don’t go into a relationship just to look for someone to make you happy, serve you, pamper you, work for you, etc. Whatever you expect in a relationship, the question is, are you ready to give the same measure or more? If you cannot, then you are not a candidate for lasting relationships. Relationships are built on hard teamwork, trust, love, and commitment.
In conclusion, “Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting” – 1 Corinthians 13:7 (CEV).
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