How do you know whether that guy you have an eye on is seriously in love with you, though he is not voicing it?
1) HE LIKES TO HELP: When a man likes a lady, he goes out of his way to help. He looks for ways he can make your life better and, without you asking for his help, goes out of his way to help and assist you.
I remember when I was still friends with my husband- Adewunmi in school, he would share his foodstuff with me, borrow me his handouts, take me around town to get medical help when I desperately needed it. Taught me how to prepare Semovita, Gbegiri, and some nice dish. Gave me the money meant for his project to do my own project first when no money was forth coming to do mine. Assisted me everywhere possible without asking for help and always ensuring I came out tops in my department. When I asked him why he was doing all that, he said he didn’t know, he just loved to help, that’s all. Eventually, he discovered that he was really in love and came to propose. It’s been bliss ever since.
2) HE WANTS THE BEST FOR YOU: He desperately wants you to succeed and would do anything to see you through.
3) HE PROTECTS YOU: He develops an antenna to spot danger around you, and he is always eager to protect you from harm. You notice he may get angry that your shoes are too high, he didn’t want you to break your heels or you are over stressing yourself or worrying unduly. He wants you to be okay and far from pain and hurt.
4) HE LOOKS AT YOU A LOT: He admires you and loves to look at you. The admiration is written all over his face.
5) HE IS JEALOUS OVER YOU: He may not even be aware, but you notice he acts uncomfortable each time he sees another man trying to get your attention. He may be angry, criticize him, or warn you to keep away from him.
6) HE LOVES TO TALK TO YOU: As a rule, men are not quick to share their hearts with someone. They hate being vulnerable around their fellow men talkless of women. The most talkative of a man would rather spend time making money than chatting with a woman. If he creates time out of his busy schedule to talk to you, that guy has something very special for you. You must be so important to him. My husband is a perfect, gentle man and a workaholic per excellence. Anytime I appear, he drops whatever he does, looks into my eyes, and spends some time talking to me. My presence means the world to him.
7) HE IS NOT QUICK TO ASK FOR SEX because that is not his real focus for being in a relationship with you.
8) HE ASKS YOU DEEP QUESTIONS about your personal life, family, dreams, vision, goals, past relationships, etc.
9) HE INTRODUCES YOU TO HIS FRIENDS AND LOVED ONES: He has found gold, and he isn’t going to hide it from the people important to him.
10) HE SHARES HIS HEART WITH YOU: His dreams, goals, vision, plans, likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, life expectations, etc.
Word of caution: A man may do all these and still believes you are not the one. I honestly do not understand why some men behave this way. He would obviously be in love with a lady and go right ahead to propose to someone else, probably because that one has a hot body, came from an influential background, or spoke Queen’s English. The man would lead his friend on while she keeps hoping he would one day propose only to wake up and find his wedding invitation card on her table.
The only solution I know to this is to protect your heart from unnecessary emotional attachment to a man who has not proposed. Until he verbally expresses his intention to marry you, do not fall head over heels in love so you do not get your back broken while falling.
And if you’ve been friends for a year and he has consistently shown these signs, you need to sit him down and ask him what he really wants from you. You are not being desperate, and neither are you proposing. You should ask him where this relationship is heading so you could either give him your full attention or look else where, you have no time to waste, he is man enough and is fully convinced you are the one for him, he should propose sooner or later.
Don’t assume he will one day propose while you send other “brothers” away. The shock of his rejection may be too much for you to bear.
All in all, pray and ask the Lord to reveal your true bone and flesh to you. Ask Him to bring him to you in His own time and when the time comes you will know he is the one and he himself will be convinced that you are his real life partner made from heaven and “whatever God has joined together, let no man put asunder…” God bless you. Cheers!
