𝑾𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒅𝒐𝒘𝒏: 𝑨 𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒅𝒐𝒆𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆. 𝑯𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒔 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒕. 𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒉𝒆 𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒅𝒔 𝒂𝒔 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝑹𝑬𝑺𝑷𝑬𝑪𝑻.
That’s why you cannot buy a man flowers. We don’t know how to react to that. But we know how to react to being made to feel like a king! When you cook for a man, and invite him to the dining table like a special guest… when you call him lovely names that swell his head… when you tell the kids “never to sit on daddy’s special chair in the sitting room”… when you show your support for him, and sing his praise any chance you get… when you do these things, HE RELATES TO THEM AS YOU LOVING HIM. In this state, it becomes TOO DAMN EASY for him to treat you just the way you deserve to be treated!
When you acknowledge a man as your king, he will extend his scepter of kingship to you and acknowledge you as his queen. It’s as simple as that. (Esther did it).
So stop talking down on a man. Stop disrespecting a man. Submitting to a man is not a demotion. It’s not slavery. It is a blessing. It is honorable. It is a divine responsibility. You will reap the benefits if you married a good man. When you submit to a man, you are submitting to the Lord without knowing. That means when you respect a man, you are respecting the Lord without knowing. So learn to respect the Lord through your man. (My next post is on SUBMISSION).
Women, on the other hand, relate to love in a different way, which is AFFECTION! A woman does not really need anything else from you more than she needs affection. It is not your money she needs… it is the affection that comes with it. It is not a new car that she needs… it is the affection that comes with it. The sex is not what makes her happy… it is that during sex, there is affection attached. She’s not necessarily telling you her problems because she wants you to solve it, although that would be great… she’s telling you because she wants to be shown affection through it all. She may not get the solution, but she knows a hug from you will make her feel better… It is not really the ice cream she wants. She just really wants to spend time with you and have all your attention while enjoying the ice cream.
AFFECTION is the watchword for women, and that automatically translates to ATTENTION. This is why women need attention, EVEN WHEN THEY KNOW WHAT THEY’RE SAYING DOES NOT INTEREST YOU. (This one pain me eh).
So Apostle Paul was admonishing the men, and he said, in return for the respect (submission) she will give you, SHOW HER LOVE (AFFECTION). Don’t take advantage of her because she placed herself under your authority. Because she’s under you, she becomes your responsibility. Your eternal job becomes to KEEP HER HAPPY! As she has made you a king, be her king, and make her a lovely queen. Treat her well.
This is exactly the same with the relationship between God (husband) and the Church (wife). As we make Jesus king, He simply comes down and does kingly things for us. How did Paul and Silas come out of prison? They praised God, and made Him king, and He responded to His bride, and carried out His responsibility as a King and a Husband. How did the wall of Jericho fall? When the people of Israel went round the walls, SINGING PRAISES THAT RECOGNIZED GOD AS KING.
I just gave you the secret to answered prayers. If you want an answer to a problem you’re facing, JUST CROWN JESUS KING OVER THAT SITUATION, and step out of the way, let the king come do His thing. If you’re sick, or troubled about something, just make Jesus king over it, and ask Him to take control. Call him great names. Exalt Him in praise and worship. That’s the secret of miracles! Is somebody getting this rhema?
So in that same way, if a man is to give a woman the love and affection she desires, she is to make him king, and give him the respect he desires and deserves. The men you see today who shower their wives with love were recognized as kings by their wives. It was not magic. It’s principle.
If we are able to learn these expressions of love, then all relationships would grow to achieve the very purpose for which they were designed.