Perfect Life Partner or Soul Mate Does Not Exist. Does the Bible speak about a believer having a soul mate? Is there a specific person that God has for each one of us? Is it biblical to have a soul mate?
You know how the movies and books go, they often describe how a man and woman magically find each other out of all of the billions of people in the world, and they instantly know that they were destined for each other. Sparks fly. Fireworks erupt. The world stands still.
They know that they are meant to be soul mates and that they will complete each other and fulfill each other like no one else ever could. They just know they will be completely perfect for each other. Together, they will have unending bliss in this lifetime. They will feel totally in love every moment of every day. Infatuation will never end for them.
They won’t even have to work at nurturing the romance. It just magically happens without effort or problems.
A lot of us believe this idea. But is the worldly idea of one perfect soulmate in all the world for each of us biblical?
Culture loves to plant things in our minds, especially things about romantic relationships. “And they lived happily ever after,” is the fairy tale ending many singles are looking for. The cultural dating norm insisting that singles should search to find their perfect match – soul mate –has left some Christian singles scratching their heads. Nowhere in the Bible do we see this idea that God has one special someone for you that you must search to find.
Many singles, hoping and looking for “the right one,” hope to meet someone who would be a perfect match for them; someone who would be fun to be with for their whole lifetime. As such, many of us entertain the idea of a soulmate: someone whose fate is intertwined with us, dictated “by the universe.”
Is there anything in the Bible that indicates that this is true? No, there is nothing in the Bible that reveals we are destined to marry a specific person and no other. Some Old Testament saints had prearranged marriages that were the will of God but these were isolated cases and for particular circumstances and specific purposes and we cannot extrapolate or take these examples as something that God will do for us. It is very possible to marry the wrong person.
For one thing, believers are commanded to not marry outside of the faith… that is they should not marry an unbeliever because God has said that we are not to be unequally yoked (2 Cor. 6). Many have never followed this godly advice and have ended up in a marriage that God never intended for them to be in and heartaches resulted. No marriage is always better than a bad marriage but once a couple is joined, either believers or a Christian with a non-Christian, they are commanded to stay in that marriage by grace.
WHAT IS SOUL MATE?
The soulmate concept ranges everywhere from optimal reality to an impossible ideal. That’s why we need to define what one is.
Dictionary.com defines a soulmate as “a person with whom one has a strong affinity, shared values and tastes, and often a romantic bond”. So in other words, a soulmate is someone you’re compatible with.
The common idea of a “soul mate” is that for every person, there is another person who is a “perfect fit,” and if you marry anyone other than this soul mate, you will never be happy. But does the Bible say anything about soul mates? Fantastic and romantic as it is, having a soul mate is not a biblical idea.
For centuries, people have been using the soul mate idea as grounds to break up or even divorce. A person becomes unhappy in a relationship, then claims they are obviously not with “the one” and should therefore break up. At that point, they feel they can justify the search for their “true” soul mate. Sorry, people, but that’s nothing more than an excuse—a pretty blatantly unbiblical one, too.
Sometimes, the idea of a soulmate confuses and delays a single person from committing to marriage. Sometimes, the idea of a soulmate provides an excuse to someone married to seek divorce. Both views are flawed.
I knew of a Christian Sister who believed that a particular Brother in the Church is her soul mate as she claimed “God reveal it to me in a vision several times”. On the side of the Brother, he has no desire for her.
She tried all she could for the Brother to accept her but to no avail. She went to the extent of using their Pastor and other church elders. Finally, the Brother ended up marrying another Lady from a different church. Six years down the line, the Sister was still praying and trusting God for a miracle that will bring her soul mate back to her.
Even though he was married and with three kids, she was still waiting for him. Isn’t that satanic?
I used to believe in the lies of Soul Mate. It tormented me for ten years. Even after the Lady got married, I was still obsessed with her until God opened my eyes and set me free. There are so many people in bondage today because they believe that they have either lost their soul mates or yet to find them. God has never promised us a soul mate. Souls can never marry. Spirit can never marry.
Only human marries in the earth realm.
This is where many are missing it in their quest for a life partner. We will correct this false doctrines of demons trying to change the ONE FLESH UNION into a SOUL MATE UNION. This preposition has brought many into untold miseries. I remember a woman who believed her late husband is still her soul mate. She refused to remarry. And guess what? Her late husband always appears in her dreams and have sex. This is apparently demonic.
The notion of a “soul mate” has its roots in the philosophy of Plato, not the Bible. Plato surmised that a prototypical human being was somehow split in two, resulting in our desperate search for the one person who can complete us.
