It’s funny how some single young men want their girlfriends to submit to their authority, bow to whatever they tell them, monitor and approve their movements, etc. To such men, that is what will compel them to marry their girlfriend, failure to do so means she is not fit to be a wife to them. To my Christianity brothers who quote the Bible to defend your position, please STOP. You are misquoting the Bible.
There is nothing like submission to a boyfriend in the Bible. Apostle Paul on several occasions stated “wives” and not girlfriends; for the girl is under the authority of her father not her boyfriend. Any man wanting her to be submissive to him should wait for her father to present her to you in marriage. That is how he transfers that authority to you.
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior” – Ephesians 5:22-23 (NIV).
The Bible stated in black and white, WIVES should submit to their own HUSBANDS and not girlfriend to the boyfriend. The question to you the single man is, are you married to her or studying her for marriage? Is she is your wife or your girlfriend?
The husband is the head of the wife but the father is the head of the girl. The relationship between a boyfriend and a girlfriend is FRIENDSHIP not marriage. It is just a privilege she shares some information with you and not because she is obliged to do so. So stop questioning every single move of hers.
Your girlfriend does not need your permission to see to others, she doesn’t need your consent to take major decisions in life, she doesn’t need your approval to accept gifts from others or your agreement to attend events and social gatherings.
She needs her father’s permission because she is under such authority and it is very important you respect that, so you can earn her respect. Stop forcing yourself on your girlfriend because you are in a relationship which is leading to marriage.
If you want to be sure whether she will respect or submit to you or your authority when you marry her, visit her at home or the father. The same way she treats her father, she is likely to treat you same. If she disrespects her own father, she will disrespect you. The father’s responsibility was to raise her well. What you see when you visit her home is the harvest of what the father sowed.
If you want to know whether she is lazy or not, pay a visit to her home. Charity they say begins at home. If she is lazy, you will know by how she carries herself and the testimonies about her. If you want to know whether she is a good cook, visit her home. Her mother is the Chief Chef, if growing up she has been helping her mother in the kitchen, she should have taken over from her.
Some men have the habit of patronizing ladies on the street, without going to their homes, forcing them to pretend to be a good woman for them and later cry foul that they married the wrong person. May that not be your story. Responsible adults are not raised on the streets but in a home.
And if you found her to be a good woman from the home, don’t teach her how to lie to her father just to spend the night with you at your home. When you do that, you end up teaching her how to lie to you when she is married to you in the future.
In conclusion, “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows”- Galatians 6:7 (NIV).