There are lots of singles out there looking for a committed relationship but unfortunately they are not getting one. This is because they don’t have any goal to follow. It is just about dreams, fantasies based on the stories they read, watch, or relationships they saw or witnessed.
It is about someone’s relationship or marriage not about theirs. “I wish I had a relationship like yours”, that is only a wish and nothing more. And if wishing could make things happen, then even the poorest people will become the richest or people with nothing could have everything they wanted.
Waiting or wishing for a man or woman to bring you happiness in the name of a relationship, will only end up with you dying out of sadness. Having a happy relationship has more to do with you than someone else. Your relationship defines you, your conviction, motivation, intention, direction, goal.
What you want determines where to go or which direction to take. If all you do is to dream, fantasizing about people’s marriage or relationship or idea then you might not have such a relationship. No wonder many singles are out there looking for relationships yet they are not finding the kind of relationship they want. They lack what it takes to get the kind of relationship they want or who they want to meet or be with.
It’s time you turn your dreams, fantasy into a goal. Start by writing them then it becomes your working document, a personal declaration you make to yourself and your future, something you work at achieving. Your goal motivates you, it makes you a disciplined person, it guides you. It helps you to identify what you want and what you don’t. It helps you distinguish between the right and wrong.
If you make it a goal to be a good spouse, you wouldn’t need a good spouse to be one, it won’t depend on anyone but yourself. If you make it a goal to be a faithful partner, you wouldn’t need an honest partner to become a faithful partner. It is something you do for yourself.
Your goals are your principles, what you stand for, what you live for, what you work for. So those waiting for a good spouse, someone to make them happy, those who think a beautiful relationship depends on who they date or end up with, need to have a change of mind. If you want a happy relationship, tie it to a goal and not to people or things. Your goal will send you to the right relationship. Your goal will attract the right kind of people.
In conclusion “Then the Lord answered me and said, “Write down the special dream on stone so that one may read it in a hurry. For it is not yet time for it to come true. The time is coming in a hurry, and it will come true. If you think it is slow in coming, wait for it. For it will happen for sure, and it will not wait.” – Habakkuk 2:2-3 (NLV).