Holding a man down in a relationship just because of the benefit you are receiving from him when you know that you will not get married to him shows how heartless you are as a human. When you know that you are not interested in him, you do not have the right to tie him down into an unfruitful relationship just because of your selfish interest.
Do you know that you withholding him for long in that unfruitful relationship would have deprived him of moving on into a fruitful relationship and this has also refrained him from connecting to that lady who will value and love him for who he is?.
Pretending to love him and keeping the truth away from him that you do not love him and managing him just because you do not want to hurt him will not help that man or save him from heartbreak. Hiding the truth from him for long will hurt him more because when he finally knows the truth when it is late, it will cause him much heartbreak and by that time, he will only see you as a deceiver and a pretender. This can even lead to his hatred for you.
There shouldn’t be any reason for you to prolong any relationship you are not interested in, the earlier you come out plain and tell him the truth, the better it is for the both of you. This will also save both of you from pain.
Also, rejecting a public proposal is a childish act, embarrassing a grown-up man publicly and making him look stupid in front of everyone just because he asked you out for marriage and you are not interested in him or the marriage is a very wicked thing to do.
If you are not interested in the proposal, that does not stop you from acting maturely. Why can’t you just save the man the embarrassment by accepting the proposal, then when you both leave the public, talk to him calmly and let him know the reason why you cannot accept his proposal and then give him back the ring. That would make a lot of sense to him, the lesser the heartbreak would be and he will be grateful to you for that than to cause him a public embarrassment.
Not all men can withstand or recover from the shock of a public disgrace caused by ladies during a proposal. That might injure his ego and weaken his boldness to approach ladies again or make another proposal again. The memories of the disappointment he experienced previously will keep lingering on his mind. The disappointment can also make the man become hard toward any other lady he meets. It can change him from good to worse.
Dear ladies, do not be the cause for a man’s heartbreak; and do not also be the reason for another woman’s sadness.
