The quality of a relationship depends on the quality of the couple. Some relationships are simply toxic due to how the couple or a partner resolves issues. Many guys are dreadful when it comes to resolving issues in their relationship.
1) LET’S FORGET WHAT HAPPENED
The people who say this want their partner to act as if nothing happened, like everything is fine. Such an attitude is not good for your mental health. The brain has no button to press to format it or delete issues that happen.
When you have conflict in a relationship, many things happen. One gets hurt or misunderstood, either their needs were not met or they feel treated badly. You cannot tell such a person to forget the issue happened. When a partner wants to talk about the problem for resolutions the other partner feels the offended one likes to drag issues. You need to talk it through, listen to their emotions and needs, show empathy and also take the needed steps to avoid the issue from repeating.
2) FORGIVE ME OR LET’S FORGIVE EACH OTHER
It’s a good thing to forgive people who hurt you but that does not mean their hurt is gone instantly, especially for women. How deep the hurt is, determines how long it will take for the hurt to go. What they need you to do at that time is to show care, give them time and be supportive, instead of expecting them to get over their hurt because you apologized or asked for forgiveness.
3) LOOKING FOR WHO IS WRONG
Conflict in a relationship is never about who is wrong or right. It’s about WHAT is wrong. People spend all their time blaming their partner trying to find whose fault it is without finding a solution, instead of looking for what is wrong. Learn to kill the issues rather than killing your partner. The death of your partner is the end of the relationship but the death of the issue gives life to your relationship.
We can all change the quality of our relationships when we make time to change the things we do wrong in the relationship daily. When you don’t make it a daily goal to do things right in your relationship, you will end up repeating the mistakes, the fights, always.
In conclusion, “Pride leads to conflict; those who take advice are wise.” – Proverbs 13:10 (NLT).
