Broken heart is one of the most painful experiences to go through; a trauma that takes time to heal, a wound that takes care to heal. Many at times, when people go through broken heart, they don’t have the sense of living, they just want to be left alone and die. Filled will regret, resentment, bitterness, confusion, etc. They are going through all sorts of emotions, lose the sense of who they used to be.
Others want to drown in their sorrow whilst some try as much as possible to erase the memories that is causing them so much pain. Memories which used to be treasures become a curse, memories which were the source of smiles become a reason for sorrow.
No one going through or experiencing broken heart is ready to love or wanting to end up in love. They need people who genuinely care and are concerned about them, a friend who understands what they are going through or who can sense the pains they are going through, one who will offer them a shoulder to cry on, a hand to hold. A space to be alone when it matters. Someone who will comfort them.
It’s rather unfortunate that sometimes people try to take advantage of the situation, which is wrong. If you have proposed love to someone who turned you down or rejected you, but you found them going through heart break, loss of a loved one, what they need is a friend and not a lover.
You don’t try to be there for them just so they fall in love with you. It is like asking someone who has a stomach upset to eat; or asking someone who feels hatred or resentment to love you. It’s like asking someone who is in pain to be happy. It’s like asking someone who is crying to smile. You end up making their condition worse.
They are broken, sick and not fit to love; going into a relationship with them, will end up making them cling unto you too tight, use you as a painkiller for their pains, which is not the same as curing what is causing the pain, they become a weight you carry around. They are so attached to you and the little thing you do affects them so much, negatively. They won’t respond or reciprocate your love.
It’s also not the right time for you to keep talking about their Ex or trying to prove that you are better than their Ex or the one who broke their heart. If you force them to get into a relationship, they might not love you or be in love with you.
Such a person needs time to accept that the relationship between them and their Ex is over and are willing to move on. They will need time to heal their wounds, take the needed steps. The best way to get over their Ex is to create beautiful memories. To become dependent on themselves, learn to trust and love themselves.
Regain their self-confidence and self-esteem, regain their heart and mind, regain their emotions. They need time to work on themselves, to keep reminding themselves, they’ve got God and themselves even if everyone leaves them. What you can do to help such a person is to help them see their value, to love, care and respect themselves. To make themselves a priority.
In conclusion, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed” – Psalm 34:18 (NLT).
