If you are in a relationship with someone or dating someone and their behaviour does not make you comfortable or you believe that’s not the right person to get married to, or you don’t want the relationship, please tell them and end it.
If you tell them but they don’t want to let go the relationship, don’t entertain them. No one can force you to love them, so don’t let anyone force you to be in a relationship with them. Be bold and voice out your decision, what you rightly want without any apology or sorry feeling.
Don’t stay in that relationship whilst you entertain another person or accept another person’s proposal. I have seen this happen with people in abusive relationships. They are not able to stand up for what they want, not able to speak out for what they want, not able to use their voice, which is their power and their right.
Running into another man’s arms because one man doesn’t want to let you go, only leads to your death, your hurt or your destruction. That’s not the best way to get your current partner out of the relationship, you rather end up giving them room to hurt you more.
You know men with their ego, no man wants to lose the battle or contest of a woman to another man. No man wants to be seen as the weaker one before a woman. You not being able to end the relationship with your current partner just means he has equal power over you like the new one you are running to.
The perfect picture for such a battle is a fight between two street cats over a poor mouse. Each cat wants to own the mouse, they become too possessive and, in the process,, the mouse will either be killed by one or destroyed by the other.
It’s a matter of, “if I can’t have you, no one will”. Your current partner and the new one will find it difficult to trust you. You are being monitored, controlled and abused. Because you are not able to stand up for what you want, you are seen as weak and they take advantage of your silence to dictate to you, on what to do.
You become an object of manipulation and blackmail. Because none of these guys will like to let you go, they threaten you and put fear in you and you are forced to do things against your will.
Don’t keep these relationships and keep asking yourself why they are hurting you with their actions. The question is why do you allow them to do that? Why are you giving them the power to kill you? And if you believe it’s a mistake by allowing them to hurt you then you know what to do.
In conclusion, “Our purpose is to do what is right, not only in the sight of the Lord, but also in the sight of others” – 2 Corinthians 8:21 (GNT).